Great Communicating Thoughts

Great communicating thoughts from Nido Qubein – one of the best communicators out there. This list is in his recent “Executive Briefings,” and I thought I would cut it down to just the best – but they ALL have value and give food for thought – so here in it’s entirety:

  • Competence leads to confidence.
  • Don’t interrupt, but be interruptible.
  • Leave every person feeling better for having talked to you — they’ll be happy to see you next time.
  • Say what you mean, precisely what you mean, and only what you mean.
  • When you’re thinking ahead, you can’t hear what’s being said.
  • Forget your ability to think faster than another person talks — everybody has it, but only the foolish use it.
  • Listen at least twice as much as you talk — others will hear twice as much of what you say.
  • It’s our enemies from whom we learn the most.
  • Talking when nobody is listening is as futile as trying to cut paper with half a pair of scissors
  • If you create tension, you get resistance. If you create trust, you get response.
  • Objections are what symptoms are to the medical doctor. They point to a problem that must be dealt with.
  • Personal communication is hindered by hasty assumptions.
  • Self-centered people tend to monopolize the talking. Secure people tend to monopolize the listening.
  • You’re wasting your time when you try to answer questions people are not asking.
  • A “monologue in duet” happens when I think up what I’m going to say while you’re saying what you thought up while I was talking.
  • With life-long education, learning becomes a renewable resource.
  • Make it a habit to say nice things about yourself, to yourself. You’ll find that you like yourself better.
  • The key to your success is to be sensitive enough to understand what other people want, and generous enough to help them get it.
  • Pay attention to others and they will pay attention to you.
  • Be interesting by being interested.
  • The genius who can’t communicate is intellectually impotent.
  • The leader who can’t communicate can’t create the conditions that motivate.
  • The organization that can’t communicate can’t change, and the corporation that can’t change is dead.

2 comments on “Great Communicating Thoughts

  1. Thanks for this post. As you said most of these points are applicable to my daily communication, either in the office or at home.

  2. “The organization that can’t communicate can’t change, and the corporation that can’t change is dead.” so what about the organization which don’t understand the necessity to communicate… I tried to let my company think that “Communication is essential to develop your business”, they still think that I am a crazy [too young] guy with American ideas…
    Thanks Bert for this post.