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Posts Tagged With: "Maxwell Maltz"

Change your habit in 21 days

Posted by Ben Decker   |   February 9th, 2012   |   Leave a Comment   |  Tweet This

We’re over a week in to February — perilous territory for we New Year’s resolution-setters. How are your goals for the new year holding up?

When we make promises to do something differently, start something new, or stick with a plan, what we’re really attempting is behavior change. It takes 21 days to change a habit, according to Dr. Maxwell Maltz and his book Psycho-Cybernetics. I’ve certainly seen this to be true when coaching and changing communication behavior (give or take a week or two!). By the way, that’s 21 consecutive days, not a couple days this week, a couple next week..

So, while most of us likely made personal resolutions to eat better, volunteer more, what-have-you, it’s not too late to make (or revive) a resolution for your professional life. Here are some to get you thinking:

  • Hold meetings without smart phones or laptops to keep the participants on task and move the meetings faster.
  • Use Skype or video conferencing to have “face-to-face” conversations with team mates in other offices or clients to build more connection.
  • Video tape yourself when preparing for high-stakes presentations and then watch it back — look for your posture, what you’re doing with your hands, and if you’re smiling.
  • Voice record your conference calls and listen back to see if you can improve on vocal variety (avoid the monotone!) or cut down on non-words like um, uh, so, and..
  • Make it a habit to put down the smart phone and disengage from the laptop screen when someone is speaking with you. Instead, make eye contact and connect.
  • Quickly and efficiently flesh out an agenda before you lead a meeting or conference call instead of winging it. You’ll come across more focused, prepared, and your participants will respect you for it.
  • Start meetings, calls, presentations, etc., on time and end them on time. Period.
  • Volunteer to present at the team meeting or join a speaking group like Toastmasters to keep up the practice.

Today could be day one of your 21-ish day journey, so what are you going to do? Please share  your ideas or previous resolutions in the comments!


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A New Level of Communicating Habits

Posted by Bert Decker   |   March 27th, 2009   |   Leave a Comment   |  Tweet This

Habits
Maxwell Maltz said it takes 21 days to change a habit. In training over 300,000 people over the last 30 years our company has found that to be precisely true (give or take a week or two!)

Our communications behavior is made up of literally dozens of
habits, which we need to know first (through video feedback), and then practice to
modify, improve or change. (Remembering 'Perfect practice makes perfect.') Maltz
proved this in his self help classic Psychocybernetics.

How we think is also a matter of habit, so in our workshops we teach people new ways to look at their content – to focus, have a Point Of View, and avoid data dumps. And with the advent of new technology (ie. Twitter) we ALL have to look at modifying our habits in our approach to our audiences. (More to come on how to handle this challenge, and opportunity.)

Bad HabitsIn our coaching and consulting, the biggest obstacle we encounter is clients who just don't want to practice. If you don't like to practice either, think of what Malcolm Gladwell found in his research for "Outliers." The people with the most success in ALL fields were those who had either 10,000 hours of practice, or 10 years of experience (give or take an hour or year or so.)

We are all communicators. Gain mastery in this most important skill where you influence others every day at several important touch points. And those who have mastery and leverage in those formal speaking opportunities with large groups are those who know their habits, and practice at them.


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21 Days to Change a Habit

Posted by Bert Decker   |   August 20th, 2007   |   1 Comment   |  Tweet This

Habits
Maxwell Maltz said it takes 21 days to change a habit. Boo-ya! …or right on!

Our communications behavior is made up of literally dozens of habits, which we need to know first (video feedback) and practice to modify, improve or change second (practice, practice, pracice.) Maltz proved it in his self help classic Psychocybernetics.

In over 20 years coaching and consulting, my biggest frustration is clients just don’t want to practice. If you don’t like to practice either, here’s a great post that should help get you over that hump – on a good new blog I found by Bert Webb (it’s not just the name.)


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