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We're Exci-TED - The TED2013 Set

It’s the most wonderful time of the year: TED Conference Time.

As participants in #TED2013 Live, we’ve been privy to this year’s ideas worth spreading. With so many ideas (over 84 different talks in 4 days) – which ones do we remember most? Those that were well-communicated, of course.

Fact:

Bono proved that it IS possible to motivate – and influence – using facts. Rather than tell imagery-filled, emotional stories about poverty or use his rockstar prowess, Bono embraced his inner nerd and spoke to us – he moved us – with facts. He even made it sexy. And according to his facts, we can eradicate poverty by 2030 if we keep our momentum.

Metaphor Milieu: 

We learned from 15-year old Jack Andraka that making an early-detection test for pancreatic cancer that is 100% accurate is as easy as making chocolate chip cookies. (And with teenage optimism, he did just that for his science fair project.)

Clinical psychologist Dr. Meg Jay taught us that 20-somethings are like airplanes, just taking off from LAX heading for somewhere west – a slight change in course on takeoff is the difference between landing in Alaska or Fiji.

And growing your own food is like printing your own money, according to renegade gardener Ron Finley, who wants to plant whole blocks of gardens in urban space.

Provocative Questions:

What makes sex so damn good?” We’re not ashamed to admit that you got our attention the fastest, Jinsop Lee. And you kept it as you described your five-senses graph.

Sticky Messages:

Alex Laskey of Opower gave a powerful example of a sticky message (and we just might integrate it into our Decker Made to Stick Messaging curriculum). Social pressure is powerful – which is why “Your Neighbors are Doing Better” worked to get people to care about their energy consumption after “Save Money,” “Save the Planet,” and “Be a Global Citizen” failed.

Want more? So Do We!

We can’t get enough TED. So many great ideas – and communication examples – worth spreading. Stay tuned to the Decker Twitter feed, as well as TED.com, to learn when additional ideas and video clips are released.

Use emotion like Frank Warren

Watch this 11 minute video. I dare you not to feel anything.

You can’t help it. It’s visceral. In just 11 minutes Frank Warren gets you to feel fear, insecurity, esteem, thrill, surprise, sadness, love, loneliness, joy, envy and excitement. And in doing so, gets you to think differently about our common humanity. How the heck did he do that?

Communicating is a contact sport – you have to connect with your listeners to impact them. Frank did this phenomenally well. We could talk about this video forever. Here are just a few of the things we can learn:

He connects through content

  • Bookend the message with your point of view: Early on, he says, “Secrets can take many forms — they can be shocking, or silly, or soulful. They can connect us with our deepest humanity or with people we’ll never meet, or may never meet again.” He ends with this same phrase. It’s the one thing he wants you to remember, the big idea in how he wants you to change how you think/act about common humanity.
  • Share the stories behind the widgets: Seven years at PostSecret has provided Frank 500,000 postcards to choose from. Five hundred thousand! He could have gushed for days (literally). Instead he chooses a small handful of postcards and brings them to life by weaving concrete details of each.
  • Create peaks and valleys of emotion: Instead of stacking a bunch of funny postcards in a row, then switching to serious ones, he narrates the audience on a journey of emotions. Watch how he alternates between fear and surprise, between joy and sadness.
  • Show, don’t tell – especially the stats. We’d all love to be able to tell a data-driven story like Hans Rosling. Most people can’t do that and would instead default to flinging numbers at the audience: 500,000 postcards over the span of 7 years, an average of 71,428.57 cards per year. Not Frank. He shows the stack of all the postcards, with his wife having to stretch to add more to the pile.

He connects through delivery

  • Consistent message: His delivery matches the tone of his content. When the postcard is serious, his voice drops. When something is funny? He gives the audience permission to laugh by modeling the behavior himself.
  • Pauses for emphasis: Frank allows five silent seconds for the audience to read a postcard referencing 9/11, and four more when he shows a postcard containing an unused suicide note. He regularly pauses 2-3 seconds between slides. Remember: it’s okay to pause. No one is going anywhere.
  • He knows when to read and when to let the audience read. It’s okay (and, in fact, preferred) to read quotes in order to get them right. But my favorite bit of his delivery comes when he presents his funniest postcard, from a barista at Starbucks. Rather than read it to the audience (which would have killed the joke), he allows them to read without his narration: “I give decaf to customers who are rude to me!”

We’d be remiss if we didn’t also take note of where he applies the biggest communication secret of all: use emotion. Logic makes you think. Emotion makes you act. Speeches need not rely on Lifetime-inspired waterworks but if you can move your audience to feeling happy, sad, nostalgic or entertained, you’re probably doing something right.

Technology & Storytelling

I got sucked into a vortex again. If you’ve ever been on TED.com, you know what I’m talking about. You attempt to watch one talk (ranging from 2-18 minutes) and all of a sudden, you’re engaged in hours of thought-provoking, imaginative, and powerful presentations, and half your day disappears.

Last time was on TED, I came across this three-minute gem from Joe Sabia about the technology behind today’s storytelling.

“In 6,000 years we’ve gone from depicting hunters on cave walls, to depicting Shakespeare on Facebook walls.”

We’ve blogged many times about the power of storytelling and even the fundamental commandments to follow.  What sets Sabia’s TED Talk apart is the realization that the stories we tell and how we structure them has remained unchanged.

While the art of story telling has stayed on a steady course of uniformity, how we tell them is the interesting evolution. Stories today can be found in YouTube videos, and on Facebook wall posts and responses across the world. Stories can be delivered by iPad in a child’s bedroom or submitted on a blog. Stories can even be reported in the moments they are unfolding to the entire world. Technology is giving us many new ways to re-energize and recreate past stories, and deliver new ones. It’s exciting to think about how we’ll be hearing stories in the future.

Sabia uses his iPad as the delivery mechanism for his own story to great success. What type of technology could you use to assit your storytelling? Cleary, Sabia practiced regularly and streamlined his presentation down to the second before going on the stage, which is a good reminder for us to do the same no matter the technology we plan to use to deliver a message –iPad, PowerPoint, or otherwise.

Still, it’s the story that matters more than the platform. An emotionally engaging story that is tailored to the audience is not only more memorable, but motivates the listener to shift how they think or act about a topic. If you have a story about your product, service or idea, use it! If you don’t have one, be on the lookout for the right story for you.

How do you incorporate stories into your communications? What technological platforms do you use?

The Five Biggest Mistakes CEOs Make in Speaking

Most CEOs are not inspiring. After years of working with leaders in business, it’s hard to come to any other conclusion. And of all the people who have to lead and motivate, they’re it! Leaders clearly rose in the ranks for a reason, but by the time they get to C-level, most have never received the right coaching to present their ideas brilliantly. It’s hard by that point to get a training session where you can take risks and grow in your communication without a bunch of handlers and support people around. But it’s worth the effort, as those focused on getting the right training know – look at Steve Jobs, Chuck Schwab, and Bill Clinton for a few examples.

Here’s a countdown of presenting tips for the top dog (and all the underdogs, too). Speaking and communicating is a learned skill, critical for leadership and motivation – the CEOs primary task.

Mistake #5 – CEOs Read Speeches

In short:

In depth:

Surprisingly, this is still happening. Here’s the thing – reading just doesn’t work. People tend to think that speaking is just a form of the written medium. Nope – they are almost polar opposites in form and purpose.

CEOs probably lean towards reading speeches for a few reasons. 1) So someone else can write the speech, 2) So they don’t have to practice, or 3) Maybe they insist on being precisely accurate in the exact words they say. The problem is it’s not effective. We are all taught that if we say the right words people will get the message, but it’s not true. Not when you behavior doesn’t match your message. When reading, you usually:

  • Look down too much to read and keep up with the content, only glancing up at the audience. There’s no way to really connect with your listeners with good eye communication if you’re not maintaining it for more than a second at a time.
  • Ping pong back and forth to the podiums, if you’re using teleprompters.
  • Become more monotone because you are READING not speaking and expressing from the heart.
  • Get stuck behind a lectern, often holding on for dear life (if you fear public speaking), instead of moving around naturally and gesturing with enthusiasm.

Reading speeches can be perceived as inauthentic by the audience because it’s clear someone else wrote the speech for you.

Don’t read speeches! It may be easier and feel safer, but it does not communicate well, much less inspire or motivate. And it takes twice as long to prepare. So if you’re not going to write the whole thing out, or bullet all your points, how do you prepare? I’m biased, but highly recommend the Decker Grid. It’s an easy, structured, organized methodology that allows you to put together a presentation quickly, and you’ll never have to read a speech again.

Mistake #4 – CEOs Don’t Tell Stories

In short:

  • Get away from informing with facts, figures, and data, and start influencing.
  • Cast a vision for your organization to motivate.
  • Highlight common aspirations, efforts, and triumphs for memorability.

In depth:

Before email, before blogging, even before the Guttenberg Press, there were speeches. And those speeches had STORIES. They communicated with power and emotion.

CEOs, much like all of us, get continuously inundated with facts and figures. They are pressured with the minutiae of the day, so they tend to think in facts, tasks, concepts, numbers, etc. The problem is, in the spoken medium facts and figures don’t stick. They are not remembered, and they are usually boring. People may need to know the numbers, but save them for the written medium and send out a document when you are trying to inform, not trying to influence.

Ironically, the CEOs real job is not to inform, but to influence. Leaders are the vision casters (or should be). Vision is made up of the collective aspirations, efforts, and triumphs of the organization. Guess what’s overflowingly vital, interesting, and compelling? Stories.

Plus, stories are easy to remember and tell. They make public speaking easier. I remember a newly elected CEO who happened to be at the headquarters about a month before he was to officially start, and there was an all-employee meeting going on. The interim leader asked if he wanted to drop by, and the CEO saw an opportunity – not for a formal address but to say a few words – just to get acquainted. He thought quickly. Spoke for 8 minutes, 6 of which were a story about his first experience with the company. People loved it, and him. A story is not only easy to tell, it connects with people. Sometimes that’s the most important thing.

So become a storyteller. It’s not just for CEOs, but for all of us. They are great conversation starters at lunches, conferences, and even parties. Stories are going on all around us – and we don’t take advantage of them. Use your own personal stories, and also tap in to stories of your employees and clients. You can make a point about someone else by lauding, building up, or highlighting them, rather than yourself. Keep your ears and eyes open for potential stories happening around you.

Mistake #3 – CEOs Are Too Stiff

In short:

  • Loosen up and show energy.
  • Step away from the lectern and use the stage or meeting room space, let big gestures happen, and smile once in a while.

In depth:

Way too often we have seen a CEO making a major speech, with both hands hanging on the lectern for dear life. Not good. First of all, why is the CEO hanging on? He or she is the CEO and should not be nervous anyway, so why isn’t he or she showing energy, enthusiasm, and excitement about the message?

One of the primary problems I see in most leaders is they are too stiff, too mechanical. Communication and influence rides energy, and too many people lose all their natural and expressive energy when it counts most – when they are leveraging their time speaking to hundreds or thousands at once. They emphasize their content, thinking “if I just say the right words, people will get it.” Nope.

When you give an inconsistent message, people will trust and believe what they see and hear, not so much what you say. At the very least, you need to move, gesture, and smile.

What do you do, exactly?

  • Forward lean, like an athlete. If CEO thought more like athletes, they would habitually be in the ready position – on the balls of your feet, ready to move. If you’re forward, you want to MOVE forward, both physically and psychologically. Then you can get out from behind the lectern and move around the stage or room. Naturally. Not standing stiff and wooden in one place.
  • Let your hands work for you. In personally coaching thousands of leaders, I’ve seen maybe a handful who over use their hands and gestures. The problem is we all tend to have a nervous gesture that we are comfortable with, like fiddling with a wedding ring, that shows our nervousness. Don’t let your comfort be your guide, help the audience be comfortable with you be showing confidence and certainty in your gestures.
  • Lighten up. Your audience is drawn to passion. Smile makes you approachable. Just try adding some lightness next time.

Mistake #2 – CEOs Are Not Always Creating

In short:

  • Conduct your own brainstorming instead of relying on everyone else’s pitch, perspective, push.
  • Resist the temptation to let someone else draft your presentation. It won’t sound like you, and you won’t feel the enthusiasm that you need to exude to your audience.
  • Cut down on bureaucracy where you can – if there’s nothing coming out of this formal, scheduled meeting, then why have it?

In depth:

We’re all too busy. CEOs are way too busy, but that’s life, and no excuse to not accomplish one of their primary functions – creating a vision, a culture, and fostering a climate of creativity in their companies and organizations. The lesson applies to all of us. There are a few main problems we’re dealing with here:

Problem #1

CEOs are caught in the traditional academic, analytical, linear way of thinking. Facts and figures, financial pressures, decisions and tasks, people clamoring for decisions.

Solution

Expand your thought process beyond your comfort zone. Conduct personal brainstorming on problems – and even more so on the blank slate of possibilities. Unfortunately we are rarely taught true brainstorming in school, and there isn’t enough in business.

Here are the three rules of brainstorming:

  • Quantity, not quality – get it all down instead of judging your ideas
  • Set a time limit of 3 to 5 minutes to force the mind to create fast
  • No pre-editing in the moment – let one idea trigger another

It is amazing what you can come up with in a short period of time, and there are ideas that you never would have thought of if you had stifled the creative process. Brainstorming also prevents writer’s and messaging block. Using Post-its when brainstorming is a cornerstone of the Decker Grid Systemin creating speeches, presentations, and messages because you can easily move them around. Mind Mapping is another creative technique, which is most useful in taking notes.

Problem #2

CEOs have other people create their speeches. Not good, although it is fine to have other people give feedback, do additional research, and augment the CEOs original ideas. The key point here is the CEO (and all of us) must originate our key points out of our passion if we want to be authentic and effective.

Solution

Always create your own messages, use your own ideas. Be on the alert for SHARPs. Jot down ideas continuously. Keep a notebook.

Problem #3

The larger the organization, the more bureaucratic the mindset. That environment can be stifling for new ideas. And too many CEOs are leading the bureaucracy, protected by underlings from the energetic hubbub of where the business (and vitality) is really happening.

Solution

Lead the creative charge. Motivate others to continuously create.

  • Cut down on unnecessary meetings
  • Advocate brainstorming in regular meetings
  • Have unconventional offsite meetings
  • Create a culture where your team questions, “Is this the best we can do?”
  • Model creativity, not bureaucracy

It’s not easy being busy, but it’s just as easy being creatively busy as being boringly busy. Plus it’s more successful, and more fun!

Mistake #1 – CEOs Are Not Always Communicating Vision

In short:

  • Synthesize your vision to a sentence or two so it’s easy to remember.
  • Make sure to have contact with clients and customers, employees from the top to the bottom, to stay in touch with all facets of the organization.

In depth:

Communicate vision, all the time, relentlessly.

The #1 job of any leader is to continuously communicate vision, mission, goal, and purpose of the organization. This seems obvious, but there are reasons why too many CEOs make this mistake.

They get insulated. In Mistake #2, we talked about the bureaucratic mindset stifling creativity. That same atmosphere, along with layers of people between the executive and the customer, can satisfy the visionary mind of the executive if you doesn’t actively work against it. The best CEOs live and breathe their vision. They ARE the vision.

Jim Collins wrote two books that emphasized this. In Good to Great, he wrote about the Level 5 Leader who might not have been charismatic in the traditional sense, but was passionate about the vision of the company. In his first book Built To Last, Collins drove home the point that companies without vision simply don’t last. Just as people without vision do not accomplish much.

Too many CEOs think the formal one page Vision Statement that every employee may have to memorize takes care of the whole vision thing. It doesn’t.

What do you do about all this?

Shorten the vision to a sentence. Two at the most. The essence of a company or organization.

Examples:

  • Starbucks: “Starbucks will be the premier purveyor of the finest coffee in the world while maintaining our uncompromising principles while we grow.”
  • Henry Ford: “We will build a motor car for the great multitude.”
  • Pixar Animation: “To tell stories. To make real films. To make the world’s first completely animated feature film.”

Lead by walking around. Get out there. Although Tom Peters saw “managing by wandering around” as the basis of leadership and excellence, and called it the “technology of the obvious,” very few CEOs actually do it. What better way to communicate vision than to walk around – have lunch in the company cafeteria, walk the halls, be seen on the floor.

And think of all the time we spend on the phone – use it creatively. Keep your vision top of mind and you’ll be surprised how many opportunities there are to mention it. And remember that the phone can convey emotion, enthusiasm, energy, excitement far better than an email.

Big visions are great, but even a small vision is better than none – whether it’s customer or employee based, benefit or feature based, micro or macro based, local or national based, price or quality based, etc.

To Wrap This All Up

Ask most people in business and they will not know the vision of their company. Ask most CEOs and too often there will not be a precise, distinctive one-sentence answer. And there IS always a vision – it just needs to be thought through, honed down, and articulated.

Bonus: Here are some classic vision castings to stimulate YOUR vision casting – for after all, we all are CEOs of something or someone, if even ourselves:

To start off, one of the great vision casters was Theodore Roosevelt who said this on national greatness: “Like all Americans, I like big things; big prairies, big forests and mountains, big wheat-fields, railroads, — and herds of cattle, too, — big factories, steamboats, and everything else.”

Thomas John Watson, Sr. was the founder of IBM and he said, “The great accomplishments of man have resulted from the transmission of ideas of enthusiasm.”

“If we are to survive, we must have ideas, vision, and courage. These things are rarely produced by committees. Everything that matters in our intellectual and moral life begins with an individual confronting his own mind and conscience in a room by himself.” -Arthur M. Schlesinger, Jr.

“A vision is not a vision unless it says yes to some ideas and no to others, inspires people and is a reason to get out of bed in the morning and come to work.” -Gifford Pinchot

“The very essence of leadership is that you have to have vision. You can’t blow an uncertain trumpet.” -Theodore Hesburgh

“The mind is the limit. As long as the mind can envision the fact that you can do something, you can do it – as long as you really believe 100 percent.” -Arnold Schwarzenegger

“People ask the difference between a leader and a boss. The leader leads, and the boss drives.” -Theodore Roosevelt

“I believe that this nation should commit itself to achieving the goal, before this decade is out, of landing a man on the moon and returning him safely to the Earth.” -John F. Kennedy

Create a tipping point: 3 ways to bring in the bucks for your cause

The Boys and Girls Clubs of America got me.

On April 19th at about 7pm I walked into the ballroom at the Santa Clara Marriott to a dinner honoring the California Youth of the Year, knowing very little about the organization. Three hours later, I walked out as a new supporter. It got me thinking: What did they do to create a tipping point to motivate me (and hundreds of others) to donate?

1. Make them care.

I believe that people are inherently good and do indeed care about many of the causes in their communities – youth, homelessness, education, recovery, etc. The challenge is to make them care so much that they’ll actually do something, and ideally offer up time, talent, or treasure in support of it. You have to get them to change something – to shift their priorities to your cause, charity, or project. And that means more than just sharing big general stats hoping you’ll impress them into the cause. Numbers alone don’t stick.

At the Boys and Girls Club dinner they did an incredible job striking a balance between collective stats of the organization and the powerful stories of the individuals behind them. While the fact that “nearly 4,000 Clubs serve some 4.1 million young people through membership and community outreach” is impressive, it doesn’t alone move people to act.

So they took it to the next level. And by “they,” I mean the high-school students who were recognized as Youth of the Year. For 4-5 minutes, they each took the stage and told their story. The most moving stories were those that left such concrete images in the audience’s mind that made it impossible for them not to do something.  These 17- and 18-year-olds gave detailed accounts of gang violence, watching friends die right in front of them, enduring physical abuse by their own family members, and even being locked in a trailer for 48-hours with a mother on a meth binge.

Here’s the best part: not one of these speeches was one of despair. Only messages of hope; how the human spirit – even one so young – can rise above anything. Anything…with some help. Their assistance came from The Boys and Girls Clubs throughout California that provided a safe haven, a mentor, a friend.

Make your numbers count. Tell the story behind them.

2. Get specific.

In 2011, my husband and I attended our first elementary school auction. About halfway through the live auction, the auctioneer announced the special project for the year that needed funding. He described the need for $30,000 to purchase new iPads and laptops for the new computer lab. He went on to describe the lessons that would be conducted and how every grade level would use them. Every single parent in the room could see how their own child would benefit from this project. It wasn’t just a pool of money going to pay for a bunch of random stuff. My kid would use an iPad to learn!

It takes two things: 1. A specific amount of money needed, and 2. A concrete image of what it will pay for. In about four minutes (which equaled the quick trip my husband took to the restroom), they raised it all. Not bad.

Interestingly, this past year was not as successful. There was no specific project, just dollars needed for programs. I would guess about 2/3 of the amount was raised. Coincidence?

3. Invest in a great MC/Auctioneer/Announcer.

Or, better yet, use your skills from #1 to make that person care so much that they’ll do it for free. NFL Hall of Famer Ronnie Lott emceed the Boys and Girls Club event, and this guy was good. His skills for closing a deal could rival his career sacks and interceptions. If the kids executed the setup, he spiked it. Here’s how it went down…

The ask at a fundraiser always begins with, “There’s an envelope in the middle of your table.” And this time was no exception. But then, Ronnie continued,

“There’s also a pen.

Pick them up.

Go ahead.

I’ll wait.”

Wait he did. He asked for specific donations, even called out specific individuals, and made a public commitment himself. And he did it all with humor, heart, and humility. (Also worth noting: He did all this on the same night that many of his past 49er teammates were breaking ground on the team’s new Santa Clara stadium.)

We can use these three things for any cause – in our communities, but even at work or at home. Aside from bringing Ronnie home to motivate the kids to clean their room, there’s plenty we can do to create a tipping point for action: add emotion by providing concrete/visual images and get specific.

Any other tips? Would love to hear other tipping point successes!

Airline-inspired Analogies

We talk a lot about building SHARPs into messages: Stories, Humor, Analogies, References (Quotes), and Pictures/Visuals. One of the first reactions to this is something like, “Yeah, I love when people use them, but I’m not very good at it. I’m just not creative enough.” We put far too much pressure on ourselves to come up with some brilliant story, tagline, or imagery.

Here’s the good news: You don’t have to. SHARPs are all around. All you have to do is tune in, and notice what’s there. It’s kind of like right after you buy a silver Toyota Sienna (proud minivan owner here),and though you swear that you never really noticed them before, they seem to be right next to you at every stoplight.

In the midst of my travel this month, I tuned into some airline announcements that turned out to be great analogies in recent meetings.

The Exit Row. Everyone seated in an exit row is required to review the safety card and make an audible, verbal commitment that they will assist the crew in the event of an emergency. Go ahead and ask your team for an exit row response and make the commitment to your project or initiative. It’s verbal, it’s public, and it will get them moving! And if the answer is no, well, I’m sure you’d be happy to reseat them.

The Oxygen Mask. In the event of a loss of cabin pressure, oxygen masks will drop from above. Each passenger must secure their own mask first before helping others.  A client used this recently to talk about financial planning for the future: unless you address your own finances first, you can’t possibly help others.

Feel free to use these (guilt-free), and more importantly, be on the lookout for more. Whether it’s on an airplane, in a meeting, at preschool or on the baseball field, tune in to SHARPs. Write down the ones that stick with you and use them to help make your message memorable. And please share them!

Video Blog: Get creative with your visual aids


Using a PowerPoint deck soon?

Remember: even when you’re using a slide deck in a presentation, you’re not a slave to it. Believe it or not, you can still break up the talk by utilizing other visuals. You can still walk to a different part of the room, away from the screen. And, you can still switch to a black slide and draw something simple and meaningful on a whiteboard. Your Powerpoint deck is one tool of many in your presentation toolbox.

In that spirit, here’s today’s video blog, featuring a surprising visual used by Bill Gates. Now, start thinking, can you incorporate a memorable experience in your next presentation?

Please share any ideas for visual SHARPs that you’ve been using (and like Gates, hold the malaria)!

Follow the Four Commandments of Storytelling

We promised more tips from the brilliant speakers at this year’s TED conference (see earlier post on Bryan Stevenson). I just watched Andrew Stanton’s TED talk again, and it’s even better the second time.

You don’t have to be an Oscar winner to tell a great story. Chances are you do it all the time – at work, home, in your community. What are your favorite storytelling techniques? Share a storytelling success with us in the comments, and read on for tips from Andrew’s talk.

The creator and master storyteller of Finding Nemo, Toy Story, and Wall-E gives us a playbook that’s chock-full of what we should (and can!) do to tell great stories – at work and at home. Here are the top four rules to live by:

1. Begin with the end in mind.Storytelling is joke telling. It’s knowing your punch line, your ending. Knowing that everything you’re saying from the first sentence to the last is leading to a singular goal.”

(Note: Stanton dropped an f-bomb in his opener, but I’m pretty sure that’s optional for the rest of us.)

So here’s the question: when’s the last time that you built your presentation, meeting agenda or sales pitch on a punch line? Did you begin with the end in mind? Did you pre-plan the one thing you wanted everyone in the room to leave with?

It’s absurd not to plan a punch line. Why should that happen in our work messages? Even the worst joke tellers have a punch line in mind. Their problem is in the execution. Plenty of those examples in politics, business, and there’s always that slightly off uncle who manages to do it every Thanksgiving.

Do not pass Go, do not collect $200 until you create the punch line, or as we call it, the Point Of View. It’s the big idea, the lead of your story, and most importantly, the phrase that signifies the biggest change in how you want your listener to think or act about your topic.

Your punch line should not be “Buy my product.” That’s a “you” focused message. Instead, frame it with them (your listener) in mind. How and why should your listener think or act differently about technology, an issue, their priorities. What problem are you trying to solve?

This is probably the single most difficult part of creating a message. Not only do we have to be ruthless in prioritizing the most important “So what?” thing, but we also have to frame it in a way that matters to them. But when you do create that crystal clear POV, it will lead the way, and all of the supporting content, claims and evidence that you need to gain buy-in will come easy.

2. Heed the Greatest Story Commandment: “Make me care.”

“Logic makes you think, emotion makes you act.” It’s not just about facts, figures, stats and studies. How can you get someone to care so much about your message that they’ll take that action? Hint: it ain’t in the logical argument.

That new composting program in the office might be really important to you, but how do you get someone to prioritize the gazillion things that are important to them and put your initiative above it. And even more difficult is to actually change their behavior.

The best story I’ve ever heard was from an IT Director who wanted his organization to adopt a new set of technical standards. We blogged about it a while back. His story about the Baltimore fire engenders the right emotions – in this case, fear and uncertainty coupled with urgency – can be incredibly powerful in driving change. It’s important for logic to be present as well, but emotion is the primary motivator.

3. Make the audience work for their meal. “Don’t give them four. Give them two plus two.”

Stanton noted that we’re wired for this. As humans we desperately try to bridge the gap between what we know and what we don’t. It’s so automatic for many of us that we try to complete each other’s sentences. Chip and Dan Heath wrote about creating a Curiosity Gap (check out this great video about sparking curiosity).

Instead of laying all your information out there, good storytelling is the well organized absence of information – that absence draws us in and makes us want to know more. Give your audience some credit – they’re natural problem solvers who like to deduce and figure things out. Lead them down a path, revealing kernels as you go.

Here’s a recent example. A VP of Sales Enablement gave a presentation at an industry conference. He was invited to talk about how he overhauled the organization. Rather than just laying out each of the steps of the transformation, he began by drawing out the problems of the inefficient organization that he started with, and then stated, “but this all changed in less than 18 months.” That audience wanted more.

Stanton cited a great quote from playwright William Archer, “Drama is anticipation mingled with uncertainty.” Add some drama to your message by playing on what the audience does not know, and create a curiosity gap that they can’t wait to fill.

4. Make it personal. “Use what you know. Draw from it. [Capture] a truth from your experience. [Express] values that you personally feel deep down to your core.”

Using your personal experiences will allow your passion and authenticity to shine. We as listeners trust, believe, and follow those who are authentic. Authenticity is established with consistent messages. That is, the content of your message must match how you come across in your delivery. For example, if you’re delivering good news, smile! If you were to watch a video of yourself, you should be able to mute it and know whether or not you were speaking about good news or bad news, just by watching your behavior.

It’s also about connection. Pay attention to how you engage with your listener. Do you make extended eye communication (versus darting eyes)? Is your tone conversational? Stanton’s delivery is fantastic example of this, and he was near spot-on. (Have to knock him a bit for reading too much from the teleprompter/confidence monitors – it was just enough to break some engagement with the audience.)

Again – you, too, are a storyteller! What are your favorite techniques? Share a storytelling success with us below.

Video Blog: Change your perspective

Ever feel like you’re spinning your wheels? You’ve made a compelling argument, or a strong pitch, but somehow people still aren’t taking action.

Just because you say the “right” words, you can’t assume people will get what you mean and be moved. In order to influence and drive change, your audience needs to feel something. You have to change your perspective, get in their heads, and figure out what matters to them. Here’s a video blog where I share an example from purplefeather about switching your wording to gain a reaction from your audience.

Can you change the way you word something to make it more impactful to your audience? Have you done something like this before and seen results? Please share your stories!

Learn from TED Live, featuring Bryan Stevenson

Our heads are still spinning from last week’s TED Live conference (we streamed it live into our headquarters all week and took down tons of teaching points and notes).

What does that mean to you? You’ll get applicable bits of TED to learn from – we’ll be sharing highlights from the four days of jaw-dropping, eye-popping, tear-welling, mind-blowing, gut-busting, breath-catching, heart-moving talks for many posts to come. Here’s the first:

Bryan Stevenson: The Change Agent (Click here for Bryan’s entire TED Talk)

Bryan Stevenson human rights lawyer TED talk

Bryan Stevenson, a human rights lawyer, built an incredible rapport with the audience almost immediately and was able to challenge them to change. Here’s how he did it:

Personal connection: He gained trust right off the bat by telling a personal story of his grandmother. That vulnerability goes a long way – remember that people are buying off on you, personally, not just your content. And by gaining our trust, we’re more likely to take action on the change he’s asking us to make.

Passion: He was polished, but more importantly, he didn’t let that polish gloss over his passion. He showed it in his actions and spoke about it in words like, “Each of us is more than the worse thing we’ve ever done. If somebody tells a lie, they’re not just a liar. If someone takes something that does not belong to them, they’re not just a thief.”

Point Of View: He clearly stated a bold Point Of View directly to the TED audience calling them to be brave and find ways to embrace challenges and suffering. He moved us toward action, rather than just giving an informative talk on injustice. Watch the video clip below to see how he did it.

So, what can you do?

  1. When you’re next speaking, think of a story and anchor it to your main point. A story that shines light on who you are will not only build a connection with your audience, but it will also be memorable. Your message needs to last longer than the length of your meeting.
  2. Of course you need to come across confident, credible, and polished to your audience. But like Bryan, don’t let that take away from your passion. Prepare beforehand, but let some of that extemporaneous real personality shine through, too. Your authentic passion is what inspires an audience.
  3. Ask yourself when you’re crafting your next message, “What is the biggest change my audience needs to make? What’s the one thing I want them to walk out of the room with?” Give them direction from the start, and then make your case with all your facts and figures.

When you watch Bryan’s whole talk, please share. What else did you learn? Have any other talks inspired you recently? We highly recommend you take a little time and watch some (they’re 20-ish minutes each, and well worth the time - here’s the link for TED.com).