Audience Analysis: Nonverbal Cues & Clues

Waiter Audience Analysis - Non Verbal Cues and Clues

You’re out to dinner with friends, and one of them is in the midst of telling a great story. She’s gesturing wildly, her intonation ebbing and flowing, her energy rising as the story builds. Just as she’s about to reveal the climax, here comes a waiter to cut her off and announce the evening’s specials.

Sound familiar? Probably. Happens all the time.

Thankfully, as noted in this Wall Street Journal article, restaurants are ditching the robotic, “Here I am, and I will be your server” script. Instead, waiters are being taught how to read the table. One waiter profiled talks about how to read groups: one that is looking at each other probably means they’re friendly; glancing around the room or fidgeting likely equates to an uncomfortable work meeting.

Likewise, you should be ditch the “Here I am, and I will be leading your meeting” script. Also, ditch the “Here I am, and I will be presenting from PowerPoint” script. There should be no such script.

Instead, start by knowing your stuff. Then – like the waiters in the article – have eyes for your audience.

When you walk into the room, are they all business talk? You may need to divert from your planned introduction and warm up the room instead. If they’re laughing and telling jokes? That battle has already been won.

But what if you see them shifting in their chairs or checking the clock? Cut to the chase.

Who cares about your message? You do! Take charge – use these tips as you read your audience:

Vary your intonation: Vocal variety is one the Big 6 behaviors (from You’ve Got to Be Believed to Be Heard) for a reason. We adults tune out pretty quickly. Altering your vocals – raising your voice, lowering it for a moment, pausing  – is the perfect way to recapture everyone’s attention. “I Have a Dream” would not have changed with the world had it been monotone.

Stop talking altogether: Remember when your grade school teacher used to stop mid-sentence when everyone was talking? It’s just as effective to use on a room full of adults, when the “talking” may take place on smart phones and laptops.

Walk towards your audience: Specifically, walk in the direction of anyone whose mind appears to be elsewhere. When someone moves, our brain has to expend a little extra energy following the movement. When someone moves towards you? Even more so.  (And you – or your audience member – will probably even put down that smart phone.)

How have you seen effective communicators reign in a distracted audience? Tell us in the comments.

The Last Debate – Creating An Experience

We’ve always said that “Behavior Reigns” in these debates. This last critical Presidential Debate of this important election is no different. Obama won – but why? And did Romney really lose? What will be the communication experience left in the voters mind – when they are in the voting booth?

President Obama won in the ‘eyes’ of the viewer for two main reasons:

  • Command: The President actually seemed to be channeling Governor Romney from the first debate. He was strong of voice, interruptive, turned most questions to attacks, and seemed to take command. Obama also had more detail and examples than Romney. (Of course one might expect that as the President has been briefed in detail on foreign policy for almost 4 years.)
  • Eye Communication: In this split screen we see the candidates up close and magnified. Obama looked at Romney as he talked with a directness and seriousness that was effective. Much the opposite of Biden in the Vice Presidential debate (smirk, laughing, etc.) And his eye communication was well placed to often glance at Moderator Schieffer while Romney is finishing, almost to say “I’m ready – call on me.”

Governor Romney lost in experiential terms because he lost his spark. It’s not that he was as low energy as Obama was in the first debate, but he was:

  • Deferential: He probably agreed with Obama a couple of dozen times, most of them stated verbally. Not what you really want in a challenger in a high stakes debate like this. Perhaps he didn’t want to confront, but it not only takes energy away, it sets a mind set for missed opportunities. Romney did not confront on the Libya mess and security lapse for openers, and perhaps a half dozen other issues.
  • Eye Communication: For some reason Romney rarely looked at Obama, but kept his gaze on Schieffer most of the time. Now that’s OK, but the few times he lofted an attack on Obama he should have looked directly at Obama – making it more personal and more powerful. By comparison with Obama he lacked power and directness – purely from eye communication.

The Communication Experience

Above it all is what people take away, and you know where that makes a difference – in the voting booth. The communication experience from this debate now makes a level playing field.

President Obama was aggressive and in command in this debate, offsetting his “sleepy” performance in the first debate. Perhaps not “Presidential” but definitely offsetting the earlier experience.

Perhaps Romney was trying to act Presidential – pass the Commander In Chief test. He actually did, though perhaps it was ill advised to be comparitively passive in the effort and above the fray at this critical point in the campaign. Does he really want to leave the communication experience of this debate in voter’s minds two weeks before the election? Well, maybe. Maybe it will be seen as Presidential when added to the experience of his first debate.

What do you think?

Where’s the Vision? – The Second Presidential Debate

First thoughts – they both came to play. President Obama and Governor Romney were contentious, confrontive, strong, and articulate. If you favored one guy, he won.

But the audience lost.

 

 

Messaging

So many conflicting stories. Even the fact checkers are conflicted. I guess the best offense is a good defense. So we won’t talk specific issues here, but behavior, because as usual, Behavior Reigns.

Rising above the issues and arguments – there were so many opportunities to cast a vision. To lift the audience up. Neither candidate took the opportunity. In our communications coaching we always urge our clients to think BENEFITS – what’s in it for the listener. Both Obama and Romney kept it all about THEM. In different ways…

 

Obama

He recovered from the first debate. More energy, combative and interruptive where appropriate. (And maybe where not appropriate for a President.)

On the positives, several times he had rhetorical flourishes that were typical in his 2008 campaign. He moved around well, had good eye contact with Moderator Candy Crowley. And he reviewed the VP Debate split screen when sitting and listening as he did not pull a “Biden” by smirking and eye rolling when Romney was speaking (though there were a couple of ‘slow blinks.’)

On the negative side, his cadence often gets in the way of believability. Too often we feel it is a ‘speech’ rather than the authentic thoughts and feelings of a man – our President. And when you add to that the tilt of his serious face – those who dislike him would say arrogance – we don’t feel the likability that the polls show.

 

Romney

He continued his behavioral performance from the first debate – confident and assured in manner and voice.

On the positives, he often used the ‘rule of three,’ and had a great command of facts and figures. He often said “We don’t have to settle for this” and “We don’t have to live like this.” Romney again held himself like a CEO, and the Town Hall format gave him a chance to ‘stride’ without being stiff and jerky, as he often is. Many said he wouldn’t relate in the Town Hall setting, but he did just fine with that, as did Obama.

On the negative side, Romney asked direct questions of Obama rather than making statements AT Obama. When we rehearse executives in Q&A, we advise ending on a positive statement of your Point Of View, rather than an open ended question at an adversary. This happened several times, and Romney looked defensive as Obama parried him – and particularly rattled with the Benghazi question at the end, where Romney lost a big opportunity to make an important point. (I expect we’ll hear more on this in the days to come.)

 

So what…

No clear winner here, and the beat goes on. This will be a tight race to the wire, with only a sliver of folks undecided. There will be two factors that will sway those undecided:

  1. Who they believe – so much mud slinging and accusations of lying on both sides make trust and believability a tough issue. And behavior and likability will go a long way in determining that.
  2. A mis-step – if either Obama or Romney is caught in a real untruth or situation that rises above the cacophony of charges and countercharges, that could trump behavior.

 

So next weeks debate could be telling – we’ll see.

The VP Debate: A Draw, but… Behavior Still Reigns

If you were a democrat, you liked the debate. If you were a republican, you liked the debate. Issues were pretty well debated actually. And both VP candidates Biden and Ryan were energetic and performed well. So, a draw, but there were some important differences.

 

 

#1       The Split Screen difference.

Both candidates were on continuous split screen, so the viewing audience saw as much listening as talking. And the biggest factor in the ‘communication experience’ of this debate was the Biden smirk. Almost every time Ryan made a point we see a Biden reaction. And after awhile it turned into just repetitive condescending smiles, derisive eye rolls and a dismissive head toss. It is odd that the apparent adult on the stage was 27 years younger. Normally this would not be picked up by a viewing audience, but it’s dominant in a split screen. If you loved Joe Biden, it was OK. If you were undecided – the condescension was not attractive.

 

#2       Being a CEO

We’ve often written about the communication qualities of a CEO, and both Biden and Ryan had to fill that role. With the exception noted above, Biden did that well – he looked confident and spoke with a strong voice, even getting emotional and gravelly towards the end. It reminded us of his Palin debate 4 years ago which we blogged on here. Ryan had more to prove – younger, quick in both eyes and tongue, detail driven – could he rise above it and be commanding. Pretty close, but too often he let Biden, or the moderator Martha Raddatz, take command and override him. This was in stark contrast to how Mitt Romney did not allow himself to be interrupted, or interrupted himself when he thought he should. Ryan did not take command.

 

#3       Closing Statements

Ryan looked at the camera and gave a forceful, measured response. It was powerful. Biden looked at Raddatz and did not have as prepared a close. He didn’t ask for the order.

 

#4       Stories

Both used stories well. Personal stories, emotional stories. Stories make ideas sticky, and if you saw the debate and were asked how Ryan’s daughter got the nickname “Bean” – you would remember what subject he was talking about, and how he felt about it.

 

#5       Knowing the Facts

Ryan had the most to prove here, particularly on foreign policy and experience. He did well in having command of details, and talked on an equal footing with the more experienced VP Biden.

 

#6       Elevating the Discussion

For the most part, both Biden and Ryan missed opportunities to elevate the discussion to their philosophical differences. Both were in the weeds on the details of the economy, role of government, foreign policy, etc. But we didn’t hear much of the differences, or much inspiring, about the importance of innovation, the role and size of government, freedom in America and inherent responsibility.

 

But this was a VP debate – back to the main stage next week. We doubt if that will be a draw – but behavior will still reign.

The Five Biggest Mistakes CEOs Make in Speaking

Most CEOs are not inspiring. After years of working with leaders in business, it’s hard to come to any other conclusion. And of all the people who have to lead and motivate, they’re it! Leaders clearly rose in the ranks for a reason, but by the time they get to C-level, most have never received the right coaching to present their ideas brilliantly. It’s hard by that point to get a training session where you can take risks and grow in your communication without a bunch of handlers and support people around. But it’s worth the effort, as those focused on getting the right training know – look at Steve Jobs, Chuck Schwab, and Bill Clinton for a few examples.

Here’s a countdown of presenting tips for the top dog (and all the underdogs, too). Speaking and communicating is a learned skill, critical for leadership and motivation – the CEOs primary task.

Mistake #5 – CEOs Read Speeches

In short:

In depth:

Surprisingly, this is still happening. Here’s the thing – reading just doesn’t work. People tend to think that speaking is just a form of the written medium. Nope – they are almost polar opposites in form and purpose.

CEOs probably lean towards reading speeches for a few reasons. 1) So someone else can write the speech, 2) So they don’t have to practice, or 3) Maybe they insist on being precisely accurate in the exact words they say. The problem is it’s not effective. We are all taught that if we say the right words people will get the message, but it’s not true. Not when you behavior doesn’t match your message. When reading, you usually:

  • Look down too much to read and keep up with the content, only glancing up at the audience. There’s no way to really connect with your listeners with good eye communication if you’re not maintaining it for more than a second at a time.
  • Ping pong back and forth to the podiums, if you’re using teleprompters.
  • Become more monotone because you are READING not speaking and expressing from the heart.
  • Get stuck behind a lectern, often holding on for dear life (if you fear public speaking), instead of moving around naturally and gesturing with enthusiasm.

Reading speeches can be perceived as inauthentic by the audience because it’s clear someone else wrote the speech for you.

Don’t read speeches! It may be easier and feel safer, but it does not communicate well, much less inspire or motivate. And it takes twice as long to prepare. So if you’re not going to write the whole thing out, or bullet all your points, how do you prepare? I’m biased, but highly recommend the Decker Grid. It’s an easy, structured, organized methodology that allows you to put together a presentation quickly, and you’ll never have to read a speech again.

Mistake #4 – CEOs Don’t Tell Stories

In short:

  • Get away from informing with facts, figures, and data, and start influencing.
  • Cast a vision for your organization to motivate.
  • Highlight common aspirations, efforts, and triumphs for memorability.

In depth:

Before email, before blogging, even before the Guttenberg Press, there were speeches. And those speeches had STORIES. They communicated with power and emotion.

CEOs, much like all of us, get continuously inundated with facts and figures. They are pressured with the minutiae of the day, so they tend to think in facts, tasks, concepts, numbers, etc. The problem is, in the spoken medium facts and figures don’t stick. They are not remembered, and they are usually boring. People may need to know the numbers, but save them for the written medium and send out a document when you are trying to inform, not trying to influence.

Ironically, the CEOs real job is not to inform, but to influence. Leaders are the vision casters (or should be). Vision is made up of the collective aspirations, efforts, and triumphs of the organization. Guess what’s overflowingly vital, interesting, and compelling? Stories.

Plus, stories are easy to remember and tell. They make public speaking easier. I remember a newly elected CEO who happened to be at the headquarters about a month before he was to officially start, and there was an all-employee meeting going on. The interim leader asked if he wanted to drop by, and the CEO saw an opportunity – not for a formal address but to say a few words – just to get acquainted. He thought quickly. Spoke for 8 minutes, 6 of which were a story about his first experience with the company. People loved it, and him. A story is not only easy to tell, it connects with people. Sometimes that’s the most important thing.

So become a storyteller. It’s not just for CEOs, but for all of us. They are great conversation starters at lunches, conferences, and even parties. Stories are going on all around us – and we don’t take advantage of them. Use your own personal stories, and also tap in to stories of your employees and clients. You can make a point about someone else by lauding, building up, or highlighting them, rather than yourself. Keep your ears and eyes open for potential stories happening around you.

Mistake #3 – CEOs Are Too Stiff

In short:

  • Loosen up and show energy.
  • Step away from the lectern and use the stage or meeting room space, let big gestures happen, and smile once in a while.

In depth:

Way too often we have seen a CEO making a major speech, with both hands hanging on the lectern for dear life. Not good. First of all, why is the CEO hanging on? He or she is the CEO and should not be nervous anyway, so why isn’t he or she showing energy, enthusiasm, and excitement about the message?

One of the primary problems I see in most leaders is they are too stiff, too mechanical. Communication and influence rides energy, and too many people lose all their natural and expressive energy when it counts most – when they are leveraging their time speaking to hundreds or thousands at once. They emphasize their content, thinking “if I just say the right words, people will get it.” Nope.

When you give an inconsistent message, people will trust and believe what they see and hear, not so much what you say. At the very least, you need to move, gesture, and smile.

What do you do, exactly?

  • Forward lean, like an athlete. If CEO thought more like athletes, they would habitually be in the ready position – on the balls of your feet, ready to move. If you’re forward, you want to MOVE forward, both physically and psychologically. Then you can get out from behind the lectern and move around the stage or room. Naturally. Not standing stiff and wooden in one place.
  • Let your hands work for you. In personally coaching thousands of leaders, I’ve seen maybe a handful who over use their hands and gestures. The problem is we all tend to have a nervous gesture that we are comfortable with, like fiddling with a wedding ring, that shows our nervousness. Don’t let your comfort be your guide, help the audience be comfortable with you be showing confidence and certainty in your gestures.
  • Lighten up. Your audience is drawn to passion. Smile makes you approachable. Just try adding some lightness next time.

Mistake #2 – CEOs Are Not Always Creating

In short:

  • Conduct your own brainstorming instead of relying on everyone else’s pitch, perspective, push.
  • Resist the temptation to let someone else draft your presentation. It won’t sound like you, and you won’t feel the enthusiasm that you need to exude to your audience.
  • Cut down on bureaucracy where you can – if there’s nothing coming out of this formal, scheduled meeting, then why have it?

In depth:

We’re all too busy. CEOs are way too busy, but that’s life, and no excuse to not accomplish one of their primary functions – creating a vision, a culture, and fostering a climate of creativity in their companies and organizations. The lesson applies to all of us. There are a few main problems we’re dealing with here:

Problem #1

CEOs are caught in the traditional academic, analytical, linear way of thinking. Facts and figures, financial pressures, decisions and tasks, people clamoring for decisions.

Solution

Expand your thought process beyond your comfort zone. Conduct personal brainstorming on problems – and even more so on the blank slate of possibilities. Unfortunately we are rarely taught true brainstorming in school, and there isn’t enough in business.

Here are the three rules of brainstorming:

  • Quantity, not quality – get it all down instead of judging your ideas
  • Set a time limit of 3 to 5 minutes to force the mind to create fast
  • No pre-editing in the moment – let one idea trigger another

It is amazing what you can come up with in a short period of time, and there are ideas that you never would have thought of if you had stifled the creative process. Brainstorming also prevents writer’s and messaging block. Using Post-its when brainstorming is a cornerstone of the Decker Grid Systemin creating speeches, presentations, and messages because you can easily move them around. Mind Mapping is another creative technique, which is most useful in taking notes.

Problem #2

CEOs have other people create their speeches. Not good, although it is fine to have other people give feedback, do additional research, and augment the CEOs original ideas. The key point here is the CEO (and all of us) must originate our key points out of our passion if we want to be authentic and effective.

Solution

Always create your own messages, use your own ideas. Be on the alert for SHARPs. Jot down ideas continuously. Keep a notebook.

Problem #3

The larger the organization, the more bureaucratic the mindset. That environment can be stifling for new ideas. And too many CEOs are leading the bureaucracy, protected by underlings from the energetic hubbub of where the business (and vitality) is really happening.

Solution

Lead the creative charge. Motivate others to continuously create.

  • Cut down on unnecessary meetings
  • Advocate brainstorming in regular meetings
  • Have unconventional offsite meetings
  • Create a culture where your team questions, “Is this the best we can do?”
  • Model creativity, not bureaucracy

It’s not easy being busy, but it’s just as easy being creatively busy as being boringly busy. Plus it’s more successful, and more fun!

Mistake #1 – CEOs Are Not Always Communicating Vision

In short:

  • Synthesize your vision to a sentence or two so it’s easy to remember.
  • Make sure to have contact with clients and customers, employees from the top to the bottom, to stay in touch with all facets of the organization.

In depth:

Communicate vision, all the time, relentlessly.

The #1 job of any leader is to continuously communicate vision, mission, goal, and purpose of the organization. This seems obvious, but there are reasons why too many CEOs make this mistake.

They get insulated. In Mistake #2, we talked about the bureaucratic mindset stifling creativity. That same atmosphere, along with layers of people between the executive and the customer, can satisfy the visionary mind of the executive if you doesn’t actively work against it. The best CEOs live and breathe their vision. They ARE the vision.

Jim Collins wrote two books that emphasized this. In Good to Great, he wrote about the Level 5 Leader who might not have been charismatic in the traditional sense, but was passionate about the vision of the company. In his first book Built To Last, Collins drove home the point that companies without vision simply don’t last. Just as people without vision do not accomplish much.

Too many CEOs think the formal one page Vision Statement that every employee may have to memorize takes care of the whole vision thing. It doesn’t.

What do you do about all this?

Shorten the vision to a sentence. Two at the most. The essence of a company or organization.

Examples:

  • Starbucks: “Starbucks will be the premier purveyor of the finest coffee in the world while maintaining our uncompromising principles while we grow.”
  • Henry Ford: “We will build a motor car for the great multitude.”
  • Pixar Animation: “To tell stories. To make real films. To make the world’s first completely animated feature film.”

Lead by walking around. Get out there. Although Tom Peters saw “managing by wandering around” as the basis of leadership and excellence, and called it the “technology of the obvious,” very few CEOs actually do it. What better way to communicate vision than to walk around – have lunch in the company cafeteria, walk the halls, be seen on the floor.

And think of all the time we spend on the phone – use it creatively. Keep your vision top of mind and you’ll be surprised how many opportunities there are to mention it. And remember that the phone can convey emotion, enthusiasm, energy, excitement far better than an email.

Big visions are great, but even a small vision is better than none – whether it’s customer or employee based, benefit or feature based, micro or macro based, local or national based, price or quality based, etc.

To Wrap This All Up

Ask most people in business and they will not know the vision of their company. Ask most CEOs and too often there will not be a precise, distinctive one-sentence answer. And there IS always a vision – it just needs to be thought through, honed down, and articulated.

Bonus: Here are some classic vision castings to stimulate YOUR vision casting – for after all, we all are CEOs of something or someone, if even ourselves:

To start off, one of the great vision casters was Theodore Roosevelt who said this on national greatness: “Like all Americans, I like big things; big prairies, big forests and mountains, big wheat-fields, railroads, — and herds of cattle, too, — big factories, steamboats, and everything else.”

Thomas John Watson, Sr. was the founder of IBM and he said, “The great accomplishments of man have resulted from the transmission of ideas of enthusiasm.”

“If we are to survive, we must have ideas, vision, and courage. These things are rarely produced by committees. Everything that matters in our intellectual and moral life begins with an individual confronting his own mind and conscience in a room by himself.” -Arthur M. Schlesinger, Jr.

“A vision is not a vision unless it says yes to some ideas and no to others, inspires people and is a reason to get out of bed in the morning and come to work.” -Gifford Pinchot

“The very essence of leadership is that you have to have vision. You can’t blow an uncertain trumpet.” -Theodore Hesburgh

“The mind is the limit. As long as the mind can envision the fact that you can do something, you can do it – as long as you really believe 100 percent.” -Arnold Schwarzenegger

“People ask the difference between a leader and a boss. The leader leads, and the boss drives.” -Theodore Roosevelt

“I believe that this nation should commit itself to achieving the goal, before this decade is out, of landing a man on the moon and returning him safely to the Earth.” -John F. Kennedy

Learn from TED Live, featuring Bryan Stevenson

Our heads are still spinning from last week’s TED Live conference (we streamed it live into our headquarters all week and took down tons of teaching points and notes).

What does that mean to you? You’ll get applicable bits of TED to learn from – we’ll be sharing highlights from the four days of jaw-dropping, eye-popping, tear-welling, mind-blowing, gut-busting, breath-catching, heart-moving talks for many posts to come. Here’s the first:

Bryan Stevenson: The Change Agent (Click here for Bryan’s entire TED Talk)

Bryan Stevenson human rights lawyer TED talk

Bryan Stevenson, a human rights lawyer, built an incredible rapport with the audience almost immediately and was able to challenge them to change. Here’s how he did it:

Personal connection: He gained trust right off the bat by telling a personal story of his grandmother. That vulnerability goes a long way – remember that people are buying off on you, personally, not just your content. And by gaining our trust, we’re more likely to take action on the change he’s asking us to make.

Passion: He was polished, but more importantly, he didn’t let that polish gloss over his passion. He showed it in his actions and spoke about it in words like, “Each of us is more than the worse thing we’ve ever done. If somebody tells a lie, they’re not just a liar. If someone takes something that does not belong to them, they’re not just a thief.”

Point Of View: He clearly stated a bold Point Of View directly to the TED audience calling them to be brave and find ways to embrace challenges and suffering. He moved us toward action, rather than just giving an informative talk on injustice. Watch the video clip below to see how he did it.

So, what can you do?

  1. When you’re next speaking, think of a story and anchor it to your main point. A story that shines light on who you are will not only build a connection with your audience, but it will also be memorable. Your message needs to last longer than the length of your meeting.
  2. Of course you need to come across confident, credible, and polished to your audience. But like Bryan, don’t let that take away from your passion. Prepare beforehand, but let some of that extemporaneous real personality shine through, too. Your authentic passion is what inspires an audience.
  3. Ask yourself when you’re crafting your next message, “What is the biggest change my audience needs to make? What’s the one thing I want them to walk out of the room with?” Give them direction from the start, and then make your case with all your facts and figures.

When you watch Bryan’s whole talk, please share. What else did you learn? Have any other talks inspired you recently? We highly recommend you take a little time and watch some (they’re 20-ish minutes each, and well worth the time - here’s the link for TED.com).

Insights from a Speaking Immersion…

For three days last week I heard (and experienced) over 100 leaders speaking to an audience of 11,000 – including a couple dozen Senators and Representatives, Presidential candidates, authors, celebrities, and news anchors. (Most of the videos are available here.) It was an amazing experience at CPAC. This post is purely about the insights from this total speaking immersion – not the politics. What can we learn from the experience each person created for the audience? How did these folks handle the pressure? And what is the penalty when using the teleprompter as a crutch? (I sat in line with a teleprompter every day, and observed closely.)

  • Best speaker – Senator Marco Rubio from Florida. If this was a contest he’d win in a walk. Most inspirational, funny yet fiery, didn’t even use notes, let alone a teleprompter. Powerful messaging as well as congruent and confident behavior. My guess is he will be in the White House some day, other things being equal.
  • Biggest lesson – Don’t read speeches. Period. It is best by far to know your material and refer to notes. If you have to have a script, know it so well you can just refer to it. And if you have to use the teleprompter, learn to use it well. It amazes me how few people learn this skill. And one of those who does use it well is…
  • Biggest Rock Star Governor Sarah Palin packed the house, and she was the last speaker after three long days of just listening to speakers! And she didn’t disappoint this crowd who were her people – raucous continuous applause. Her message was not new, but was powerfully delivered. As stated earlier, she used the teleprompter very professionally – about the best I’ve seen. When she was done, thousands of people hovered trying to get an autograph, or even a glimpse, for a good 30 minutes.
  • Worst speaker – hate to point out a worst, but it is worth the lesson. Florida Governor Rick Scott’s reputation preceded him as he accomplished a huge upset to get elected in 2010, so I was surprised at how poor a communicator. One of the worst examples of reading a speech (and this by teleprompter) as he spoke in a monotone. I’m sure he didn’t mean to give the air of arrogance with his head tilted up, but he did. I was surprised he got elected communicating like that. But then, he probably doesn’t communicate like that every day – but then why become mechanical on the biggest stage. Such a waste.
  • The three GOP primary candidates who were there:
    • Senator Rick Santorum was most passionate with a clear message. He rarely referred to his script – he knew his content and was energetic with good eye communication to the audience (interesting, as this is his major weakness in interviews and one-on-one communications). Clever to have his entire family on stage behind him for the whole speech.
    • Speaker Newt Gingrich is probably the most gifted extemporaneous speaker of the three, particularly with glibness sprinkled with surprise. He can wander but he stayed on message at CPAC, effectively proposing his stump speech points.
    • Governor Mitt Romney was weakest. He used the teleprompter pretty well, but he was mechanical, and became cadenced which felt inauthentic. (Teleprompter reading tends to encourage repetitive cadence.) And even while forceful he was held back – he always seems to be playing the role of running for President.

This post is too long anyway, so I’ll pause for the key point here, and then if you want you can go on and read some notes on the many other speakers – most good, some not so. But either way…

  • Don’t think because you say the words, people will get them. A speech is not about information as much as it is about the experience – the communication experience the listener has with you for the entire time of your communication.

Sure, the experience includes the messaging, but it doesn’t matter how great your messaging is if you get in the way. People can tune out speakers in a few minutes if not seconds, and we tend to ignore this fact at our peril. The unconscious cues – and there are dozens of key ones – go a long way at getting our message across – or not. Spend three days listening to hundreds of different communication experiences like I just did, and it will be even clearer.

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Notes on some of the other notable speakers at CPAC:

Governor Mike Huckabee - no teleprompter, excellent and funny. Candor, fire. Why don’t all speakers look at Huckabee and Rubio and channel them.

Governor Bobby Jindal – great presentation with facts. Reeled off his Louisiana accomplishments, but with fire and energy and no arrogance. This is not the Bobby Jindal who did so poorly in making the State of the Union rebuttal in 2009.

Jay Sekulow – strong and straight. Fiery also.

Governor Bob McDonnellno teleprompter, and he walked the stage! Surprisingly the only one to do this, and he was very effective. Also told stories,  and forceful.

Carly Fiorina – excellent, and so much better than as CEO at HP. No teleprompter, and used a script well as reference.

Ann Coulter – funny we expected, and she was. Also outrageous, as she could only get away with. I was impressed that after her start she did have a message, not just comedy.

Laura Ingraham – good like Coulter. Used a pen with script – seeming to mark things off as she went along. She wasn’t of course, but it was an interesting, and effective, technique.

Al Cardenas – Dynamic content from this head of the convention. He is a very rough hewn, high energy guy as we saw in several introductions and spontaneous communications. But when he gave his primary keynote speech, he reverted to the teleprompter, and his energy seemed to be sucked from him – he just flattened out.

Senator Jim Demint – Knew his message and delivered it well, no notes. Conversational but not casual.

Senator Mitch McConnell – Minority leader was OK, comfortable, but the teleprompter also made him static. Lost emphasis.

Congresswoman Michelle Bachman – One of the best users of the teleprompter and OK. But have seen her better in her stump speech, coming from the heart.

Congressman Jim Jordan – not as well known, but he will be. He had a small paper with notes, and didn’t need them. He was powerful, informal (no jacket) but focused. Strong message.

Speaker John Boehnerused teleprompter badly. Audience liked his message, including him tearing up once, but he became mechanical in reading.

Governor Rick Perry best I’ve seen him. Fiery, with notes that he didn’t use. Spoke from the heart, pauses, didn’t forget anything. Not the Rick Perry of the early debates.

In Summary: When you speak from the stage, or anytime you speak and it’s important that you influence, be highly energetic. Don’t think your words will carry your message. The total communication experience will carry your message – or kill it.

Actually, Timing IS Everything

“The bad news is time flies. The good news is you’re the pilot.” Michael Altshuler

It’s your turn to present, but long-winded coworker Jeff ate half of your time slot. Your 30 minutes has now been chopped to 15. What do you do (other than eat half of Jeff’s “reserved” cupcake in the fridge later)?

One hint: The answer isn’t rushing and speed talking through all your content.

Despite what timing situation you find yourself in — whether your allotment was stolen by a change of agenda or you just lost track of yourself — it’s your responsibility as the presenter to respect time limitations and work with what you have.

Plan ahead and make timing an internal focus the next time you’re presenting. If you don’t play by timing rules, you’ll crash and burn.

Pay Attention to Timing with Presentations!

Here’s what you need to do about timing:

Know when to cut to the big finish.

  • When you have one minute left and you haven’t covered all your material, stop right there and head to the strong close.
  • Remember, a solid conclusion restating the point of view, necessary action steps, and benefits to your listeners is going to drive home the point of the presentation – much more than sped-through, rushed support information. Your audience will likely miss anything you speed through, anyway.
  • Send a recap email and include the missed points.

Lead with the most important info.

  • Journalists and speakers plan the same way. Put the most important information up front, so if your story (or time) gets cut short, at least the critical points have been hit.
  • This can feel counterintuitive – sometimes we like to save the best for a big finale, but frankly, you don’t know what will happen to your time. Prioritize important points so that if you do have to cut to the finish, you’ve made your case.

Use a clock, but don’t look at your watch.

  • Be sure to have a timepiece available: a large faced clock or your watch placed on the table, or use the clock in the back of the meeting room. Only you need to know when you’re checking your time.
  • Years ago, I sat next to Zig Ziglar at an NSA event and saw him adjusting his watch to 7pm (but it was 6:30pm). Excited to help him, I let him know the correct time, at which point he whispered, “I always put my watch at the top of the hour no matter what. Helps me see it on the lectern and keep track of time.” Pros like Zig plan for success.

Build in a buffer.

  • Rehearsal time is shorter than real time, so plan accordingly. A good rule of thumb is that your rehearsal time will be about 75% of your actual speaking time. We tend to add things when we are live, and actually speed up our pace in rehearsing.
  • It’s a much better situation to find yourself with extra time, than to find yourself out of time.

Meet audience expectations.

  • What’s everyone’s non-renewable resource? Time! Everyone in your audience is busy, and if they’ve planned for a 10 minute meeting or presentation from you, you must stick with the schedule. Even if you’re interesting, they’ll start checking their phones and watches once you go over, and you’ve lost them.
  • Going over time can be perceived as disorganized, and even disrespectful, so set expectations and meet them to avoid resentment.

It’s part planning for success, and part having plan B’s ready to go in case of emergency. Prioritize your timeliness the next time you’re presenting because you control the experience you’re creating for your audience. Respect their time, and they’re more likely to respect your points.

What time management tricks do you use?

Video Blog: Gary Vaynerchuk knows influence

It’s gotten easy to sit behind a computer and communicate, but we know that in order to influence change, to motivate others, to connect with people — we have to get in front of them. I had the chance to see Gary Vaynerchuk at a book signing this morning (practically at sunrise!) where he pitched not only The Thank You Economy, but taking that next step to engage with others.

Check out the latest video blog with tips and takeaways from my experience with Gary.

It’s Wednesday. What can you do before the end of the week to engage with others? Do a video conference instead of a call (iChat or Skype will do it)? Send a 2 minute video instead of a memo?

Value-added, out-of-the-box… nothing!

Could someone have played buzzword bingo during your last pitch, team meeting, or presentation? Employees in the video below definitely could, enduring a rah-rah talk about “goal-oriented, disruptive, Web 3.0″ nothingness.

Jargon gushes out of us like water from a busted fire hydrant – when will we shut off the main line? We latch on to these phrases frequently because of the Curse of Knowledge (sounds oxymoronic at first doesn’t it?). As you become more expert in your field, it’s extremely hard to imagine not knowing what you know. This has hugely negative effects on your communication, and can curse you in to using language that seems straightforward in your head, but is vague and abstract to anyone else.

Yeah yeah, Ben. But my colleagues and I use the same jargon, so it’s not vague to us. Even if your colleagues use common buzzwords, you’re not safe from abstraction! That’s the thing about jargon — it can mean different things to different people. Avoid jargon, or at least define yourself with an example.

Let’s take this for a spin: say you’re rolling out a new emailing process that will improve your team’s efficiency. Improved efficiency seems great, people love the sound of it, so what’s the problem? Efficiency alone doesn’t provide a concrete image to your listener – they can’t “see” efficiency. Unpack that abstraction with an example.

“For instance, John, how annoying and redundant is it for you to send an email to our scheduler, then another to our office manager, and then another different email to our accounting department? This new process will allow you to turn 3 steps in to 1, freeing up your time.”

John is much more likely to support the new emailing process now that he can visualize improved efficiency and why it would matter to him.

Kick the Curse of Knowledge — get rid of the buzzwords, or define them. Here are some usual suspects, and suggestions:
  • Added value (Right, who doesn’t want it. Instead, try “Want some results? Then…”)
  • Data integrity (“Why does this matter? You could cut your spending 3x by sending me only one mailer, instead of one to Ben Decker, another to Benjamin Decker, and third to Ben C. Decker.”)
  • Total cost of ownership (“Our competitor’s offering is free like a puppy is free.”)
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