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Faith in Your Voice – “The King’s Speech”

Posted by Bert Decker   |   January 3rd, 2011   |   12 Comments   |  Tweet This

Communication, leadership and process. Lessons from a great movie.

The King’s Speech is a film relevant to anyone who speaks for a living. (And that’s all of us.) Don’t miss it. It’s an inspiring communication experience, and will probably win several Academy Awards.

But this isn’t a film review here, it’s a communications oriented blog/insight/piece. If you haven’t seen the movie it won’t give anything away, but hopefully get you to go soon. And if you have already seen it, enjoy.

“You must have faith in your voice!”

That’s my favorite line from speech therapist Lionel Logue (brilliantly played by Geoffrey Rush) as he exhorts the soon to be King of England. And that is the single most important principle that any speech coach can tell their client. The fact is we all need to speak – powerfully – if we are to influence and lead. We must have faith in ourselves. And as we learn from the movie, that is particularly important to King George VI if he is to lead in a time of crisis.

The Power of Faith

  • Leaders need faith, in their mission and their team. As the movie trailer says, ‘Some men are born great, others have greatness thrust upon them.’ The latter was the case for King George VI (powerfully played by Colin Firth – Academy Award winning performance.) And the King did not have faith in himself, his leadership, or in his team.
  • Faith in yourself. From the age of 8, Bertie, the Duke of York was a stammerer. It was probably emotionally based, stemming from his autocratic father King George V, who was fond of yelling “Just get it out!” If Bertie ever had faith in himself he sure lost it when he had to speak. Particularly in saying any word with a “K” sound, like King. His journey in building faith and confidence in himself, with a coach who had faith in him, is the story of the movie. 
  • Faith in your support team. He always had great faith in half of his support team – his encouraging wife Elizabeth (who was later the Queen Mother of Queen Elizabeth II.) But he didn’t have the TRUST that is critical in a coach, the other half of Bertie’s support team. Lionel Logue took unusual steps to build that trust, and the movie dramatizes the true story of how the King, through courage and hard work, developed that trust through a coach who had trust in him. And then he went on to be great.

The Power of the Coach

  • We are flawed. Although some may be born for greatness, no one gets there without a coach. We all have to overcome barriers, blocks and boulders. Any athlete, any executive, any person of greatness. They all have coaches. It is inspiring to watch the deeply handicapped King succeed by allowing Lionel to be the wind under his wings.
  • Relationships are critical. In our programs it is essential that the program leaders and coaches establish a relationship with each participant, or with a CEO in the Platinum Program. The coach must be a friend and peer – as well as the expert who can help with specialized skills. That was Lionel Logue. The trust that developed with the King was critical to the process.
  • Continuous coaching is essential. Logue and the Duke of York kept at it, for years. They became good friends. The Duke of York/King George VI knew he had to keep his coach engaged, and it wouldn’t have happened without the relationship. It was solely due to this long term relationship that the King could ultimately shout, “Because I have a voice!”

The Power of the Process

  • Mechanics and Psychology, Science and Art. I have never seen a film that so brilliantly travels the fine line of logic and emotion in the process of behavior change. It’s not one or the other, but both. It was interesting that Lionel Logue was not ‘academically’ credentialed, but was experientially expert. He studied and applied new methods based on behavioral principles that he found worked for over 30 years.
  • The recording – the Duke had to hear himself before he could believe. In those days there was no video, so Lionel used a gramophone (recording) to ‘show’ reality to the Duke. Then, breakthrough! Just as we now use video in our programs as an essential and pervasive learning tool, so people can see how they really are, not how they think they are, Lionel used audio on the Duke. Seeing (and hearing) is believing. It was dramatic in reel life, and it is dramatic in real life.
  • The Power of the Pause. The ‘pause’ is a simple mechanical behavioral change that is easy to make, when practiced, and is one of the three major communication differentiators we teach. It paid extra dividends for King George. As a stammerer he could even exaggerate the pause to allow time for his mouth to catch up to his mind.
  • Breaking down barriers. Lionel Logue broke down emotional, psychological and social barriers using a variety of processes in his work with the Duke. If he hadn’t, the process wouldn’t have worked. The Duke might not have been King. And the King might not have spoken to inspire England with his leadership as he did. Who knows what the world would have looked like now? Speaking is powerful.

I could go on, and on. But it’s a blog post, not a book. Suffice it to say, see the movie. Have faith in your voice.


Categories: Film, Leadership and Communications, Newsworthy, Speakers

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Influencing in all Circumstances – shown by Mayor Frank Jordan

Posted by Ben Decker   |   November 23rd, 2010   |   2 Comments   |  Tweet This

It’s great to go to a fundraising luncheon and learn something from an old pro.

It’s so easy to inform – not always easy to influence. Everyone informs: productmanagers, sales, admins, even high-level executives. We at Decker have a strong biastowards influence. In fact, we put on every one of our program materials: Information TO Influence.

Many business executives we work with try to rationalize that they aren’t always influencing. Instead we hear, “My weekly call is just an update,” or “This All World I’m leading is just to inform the team on X,” or “I just need to update the executives on the status of this project,” etc…  Those are the opportunities that NEED to turn into an influential communication experience – and I was reminded that this last week by past San Francisco Mayor, Frank Jordan.

I attended a Salvation Army holiday luncheon this last Wednesday that honored Mayor Frank Jordan. Our Chairman, Bert Decker, is also the Chairman of the Salvation Army Advisory Board of San Francisco and led a great event featuring his own short film on Frank Jordan (No bias! Well – at least I don’t think so).

The event was to honor Frank Jordan and his 50 year involvement with the Salvation Army. He was appointed to be Chief of Police in the 1980s when Diane Feinstein was the SF Mayor, and Mr. Jordan went on to become Mayor in 1992. Throughout his leadership in SF, he had always been involved with the Salvation Army in some way. I’ve included the video below, it’s worth the 6-7 minutes to get a sense of what he did.

It was short and sweet, informative and influential – and it made me walk away with a newfound respect and knowledge of the man. One of my favorite quotes (that I plan on using) was his opener on the importance of brevity: “As King Henry VIII said to his third wife, ‘I won’t be keeping you too long.’” (Great SHARP, by the way.)

The key piece is this: he added value and influenced the hundreds of luncheon attendees. Instead of taking the easy road of just thanking people and stating his high opinion of the Salvation Army, he spoke of the success of his career guided by a strong, clear point of view: “You need to live a life of value.” This simple statement changed his entire seven minutes of influence.

This is is what any product manager, sales, admin, or high-level executive can do in their dozen times a day they communicate with others. It’s a way of thinking and an attitude. If you open your mouth, what is the value to the audience and change you want to happen? So to end how I began, keep your messages on focused on your audience. Continue to add value – and you will get influence!


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Learn how to make your ideas stick from Leonardo DiCaprio

Posted by Kelly Decker   |   July 22nd, 2010   |   1 Comment   |  Tweet This

It’s quite a rarity to get out for a date night or, in our case a date day. We went to see Inception on Sunday afternoon, the new thriller with Leonardo DiCaprio by writer/director Christopher Nolan whose work includes Memento (amazing!), Dark Knight, and many others.

It’s intriguing, deep, and action packed. And great effects if you’re into that kind of thing. While I was trying to sort out the plot around whose subconscious was whose, I started hearing the SUCCESs framework from Made to Stick. Disclosure: yes, I am in tune to it, but really not that geeky about it. Seriously, Nolan MUST have taken a few notes from the book in his research. If you’ve read the book or attended one of our programs you know that SUCCESs is a checklist for sticky messages which share the principles of Simple, Unexpected, Concrete, Credible, Emotional, and Story.

The premise of Inception is how to extract and plant subconscious thoughts, using dreams as the vehicle. And it turns out that planting an idea is the more difficult of the two. Not unlike what we do everyday: trying to plant ideas like adopting a new technical standard, launching a new initiative or process, convincing the boss why we’re the right person for the job, lobbying for a family vacation in Florida instead of Colorado, and even getting the kids to put things back in their place (by starting with putting their shoes away in the closet instead of leaving them in the middle of the kitchen floor).

So, Leo (aka, master thief Dom Cobb) assembles a crack team including a dream architect, a chemist, and a forger – all of whom can also kick butt in the process. Their task: to plant an idea in the mind of a major energy conglomerate heir – specifically, the idea that he should sell off and disband the business his father built. And they do it using a few of the SUCCESs principles that also map to the Decker Cornerstones:

  • Simple: The idea must be incredibly simple so that it can grow and thrive on its own. That means boiling your message down to the biggest change in how you want your listener to think/act about your idea – it’s your Point Of View.
  • Concrete: There must be some specificity and familiarity in the environment to allow the idea to grow. In other words, once you get someone to buy off on your Point of View, you must tell them what to do next. Include a Specific Action Step that is timed, physical and measurable.
  • Emotion: Use it! This is the get-someone-to-CARE-about-your-idea part. Why would they do this? Give them the benefits (to THEM), and remember that positive emotion trumps negative emotion. The movie really tugs at the heartstrings here – without giving away too much I’ll just say that parents, don’t throw out all the elementary school artwork.

And it all comes together in a terrific 2.5-hour story that keeps your mind whirling. Head to the theater and go brush up on your communications – it’s a pretty good excuse. I’ll leave you with the trailer:


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The art of storytelling is in the telling

Posted by Ben Decker   |   April 16th, 2010   |   8 Comments   |  Tweet This

My wife and I made a point to see Oscar-nominated films before the Oscars. That was before we had kids. Now, we’re pretty much limited to the Best Animated Feature category. But we did manage to see “Up In The Air.”

As you probably know, George Clooney plays a character who’s a consultant traveling around the nation to lay people off. He incorporates this brief pep talk into his repertoire:

Later, his protégée delivers the same line, but this time, it’s robotic and pointless.

The art of storytelling is in the telling. Maybe you’ve got a great story. A customer testimonial that will knock a prospect’s socks off. But if you don’t tell it well, who cares?

This is something I’ve been working at since I got married – my mother-in-law helped me realize it. My problem is that I tell a story once, and that’s it. I lose my gusto after that. I start skipping the details and deliver the punch line way too soon. But my mother-in-law… she can tell the same story 9, 13, or 27 times, and it loses nothing! If anything, she gains momentum each time. When she tells stories, she nails the behavioral skills around eye communication and energy – facial expression, vocal variety, and gestures (note an unfair advantage: she is Italian).

Whether it’s the first time or the tenth, deliver the story well. On the content side, don’t skimp on the details: describe the pain, celebrate the success. Then bring the content together with the behavior. Show and tell how the lead character (whether it’s you or someone else) felt at that moment.


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Rule of Three – List of Three

Posted by Bert Decker   |   November 11th, 2008   |   6 Comments   |  Tweet This

Atkinson
Max Atkinson has a great blog that you will want to visit if you are at all interested in speaking and communications (which is why I assume you are here!) He is the speaking expert from the UK behind "Claptrap", which is an outstanding movie classic on the use of oratorical devices. Sounds boring, but the 30' film dramatically takes a woman with moderate education and makes her into a "standing ovation" parliamentary speaker. With Max Atkinson's help. (Unfortunately the film's only available in PAL.)

His great post on Barack Obama's advanced use of alliteration, list of three, and other oratorical devices is not to be missed. Atkinson is a master at coaching and analyzing the written speech. As he mentioned in his email to me, Obama "included 27 three-
part lists at a rate of about one every 30 seconds!"

And keep in mind that the "list of three" is not just a device of rhetoric. As a proven principle in physics, it is also used in communicating for

  1. organizing ideas on the spot
  2. creating presentations, and
  3. putting together agendas of any kind

(and a lot of other uses beyond those three.)

It is one of the organizing principles for The Decker Grid, which we use in every program we teach and train. So if you use the Rule Of Three you will be

  1. More prepared,
  2. More persuasive, and
  3. More powerful!

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