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Archive for September, 2009

Brogan Battles Backnoise – and wins!

Bert DeckerPosted by Bert Decker   |   September 30th, 2009   |   7 Comments   |  Tweet This

You may have heard of the backchannel when one is speaking, but have you heard of BackNoise? If not, it’s time you do. As blog post reader Paul Freet stated: “Backnoise is like the hammer in the 1984 Apple commercial.

Paul hit the nail on the head. BackNoise is the hammer being thrown into the theater of public speaking.

In my blog post “Speakers – Be Aware, Twitter is Coming,” I affirmed that in any conference, event or speech setting where the speaker has a point-of-view and a message to deliver, the speaker is responsible for the experience. Twitter, BackNoise and other backchannel tools challenge speakers to step up their game in maintaining responsibility for their communications experience. Backchannel conversations compete for an audience’s attention. Presenters need to master the art of engaging their audiences more than ever if they’re going to be successful communicators of the future.

Unlike Twitter, BackNoise is an isolated conversation backchannel tool, centered around a single topic (or rather a single conversation name). Created by Keith McGreggor of Atlanta, BackNoise lets anyone establish these topical conversations quickly and easily, allowing those who know the name of the conversation to join in. These virtual conversations can occur during meetings, lectures, presentations and speeches – anywhere YOU may be presenting your message to your audience – whether you like it or not.

There have been many recent blog posts on BackNoise, (several listed at the end of this post) – most of which reference what transpired at the New Media Atlanta conference on September 25, 2009. My daughter attended that conference and had this to say about her experience:

BackNoiseI’ve read about the BackNoise chatter at the conference changing the tone of the conference from excitement and enthusiasm in the morning to a negative, disheartened mood in the afternoon. I didn’t experience that because I wasn’t online to view it. (The BackNoise conversation wasn’t displayed publicly, but taking place on laptops throughout the auditorium – much like kids talking in class, uninterested in learning.)

Oblivious to the negativity spreading throughout the day on BackNoise, I first experienced BackNoise when the main speaker, Chris Brogan, took the stage and put BackNoise up on the screen behind him. Curious (because it was on the screen), I read some of the comments and found what I read to be mostly silly, boring, off-topic, uninteresting and frankly stupid. When Chris took the stage and began rapping, my eyes immediately shifted from reading comments of no interest to me on BackNoise to checking out what the heck this guy was doing. What I witnessed as Chris’ presentation continued was a personable, down-to-earth and confident presenter connecting with his audience, sharing a valuable message in a way that engaged his listeners. While I continued to see BackNoise comments scrolling on the screen behind him, I paid no attention to them because they couldn’t compete with him. I was so interested in what he was saying that BackNoise was just that – noise in the back that I tuned out because I wanted to participate in his communications experience.

I’ve watched the video of Chris’ presentation (and you can too on Chris Brogan’s blog). My daughter is right. Chris is an excellent communicator. He masterfully created, facilitated and led an effective communications experience for his audience. Realizing the effect of BackNoise in the shadows of laptop screens, Chris yanked the furtive chatter out of the laptops and threw it on the screen for all to see and for him to confront and control – which he did, artfully. Chris has demonstrated in Atlanta how communicators can tame the lion of backchannel distractions. (A more in depth review of how Chris Brogan tamed the lion is the material of a forthcoming blog post.)

What we can learn from the New Media Atlanta experience with BackNoise is this:

  1. You (as speaker) are responsible for your communications experience.
  2. Backchannel conversations are here to stay; embrace them as your competition.
  3. Now, more than ever, you need to sharpen your skills to connect with and engage your audience — you need to be BETTER than your competition (distractions in general, but particularly backchannel chatter).
  4. BackNoise (unlike Twitter) is a unique backchannel tool that you can establish, encourage and control as you use it to create a more interactive communications experience between you and your audience.

You’ll be hearing a lot more about BackNoise in the world of mainstream speeches and presentations. Don’t fear it, face it.

Some of the recent blog posts about BackNoise:

Unexpected Learnings: Backnoise Can Be Toxic

Backnoise Is The New Listening Channel

How To Present While People are Twittering

Backnoise: You’re Not Ready for This, or Are You?

Don’t Blame Backnoise


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Master the Art of Telegraphing

Kelly DeckerPosted by Kelly Decker   |   September 24th, 2009   |   1 Comment   |  Tweet This

Hi all, @kellydecker here…

Think telegraphing is outdated? Think again.

When’s the last time you got a telegraph? Well, if you’ve interacted with anyone in the last ten minutes – a coworker, friend, boss or even your kids, you definitely got one. And I bet that you sent a couple in the process.

I’m a big John Madden fan. He’s the kind of authentic communicator that makes you want to buy him a beer, sit back, and listen to his stories. So I do (minus the beer) – usually right about the time I take the Fremont exit during my commute into the city – on The Daily Madden, his 8.5 minute gig on KCBS at 8:15am. Today he and the great Tony LaRussa were talking about the typical random and rambling banter of this segment when they turned to the topic of telegraphs. (Listen to the segment here.)

Telegraphing in baseball is common. Turns out that pitchers do it all the time.

LaRussa says that pitchers “get in these habits wherein they start their delivery and they let you know what they’re going to throw. The hitter sees that and they know what’s coming.”

This is pretty amazing. It means that the batter, who is standing 60 feet away, can look at how the pitcher raises his arm, grabs the ball and holds the glove and then that batter can figure out exactly how to hit the ball. They read telegraphs to their advantage, and to literally hit it out

of the park. Don’t know about you, but I’ve got a new found respect for ball players.

LaRussa continues, “Some guys are great at seeing it – it can be really just a glimpse of something…and some can’t, unless it’s really obvious.” And it’s becoming more important. “There’s a legitimate study going on in every big league team more every year at reading pitchers’ little quirks and tips.”

Sounds like business communications to me. Telegraphing is happening in nearly every interaction that you have, and you’d better get good at sending and reading those messages.

master4On the sender side, there’s nothing that will help you more than video. Just like in baseball (and any other sport for that matter – which is why the best athletes just keep getting better and better), you’ve got to “break down tape.” Until you get yourself on video, you probably have no clue how or what you do in your daily communications. What signals are you sending that either help or hinder your listener to do something with your message? It’s about making what is unconscious to you (your habits, quirks, ‘tells’)…conscious.

And if you can learn to read the telegraphs, you’ve got a game changer on your hands. Whether it’s selling a customer, delivering a performance appraisal, hiring a new team member, or talking with a friend – you’ll be well served to pick up on their telegraphs and respond appropriately. Here’s are a few ways to learn:

  • Read Blink. Malcolm Gladwell’s great best seller on how and why we make judgments in the blink of an eye.
  • Watch/Listen to your kids: They can’t help but wear their heart on their sleeve. Even though it’s obvious (and pretty funny) it’s a great way to get tuned into telegraphing in general.
  • For fun…watch a game of No Limit Texas Hold ‘Em. These guys and gals are good at reading “tells”, and really good at hiding them. At least watch (or re-watch for the umpteenth time) the movie Rounders and learn how even an Oreo cookie can be a downfall.

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Where’s Your Lean?

Bert DeckerPosted by Bert Decker   |   September 18th, 2009   |   4 Comments   |  Tweet This

Wheres-Your-LeanYears ago I co-produced the film “Robert Kennedy Remembered.” One of my favorite lines in the narrative described when Robert Kennedy first came to Washington as Senator, “He hit the ground running, leaning forward.”

Politicians know it. Executives know it too. Successful communicators (ie. successful people) lean forward in all they do. They possess character and talents, of course — natural gifts and developed skills. But it’s how they communicate with action that differentiates them from the pack.

The forward lean is a mindset. It impacts every facet of your life. It’s a “can do” attitude, approaching opportunities with a simple commitment to just do it.

We’re talking about leaders who engage. They get involved. They participate. They stand up, raise their hand, volunteer and take chances without hesitation. High energy, always working toward something specific and moving in a deliberate direction – successful leaders understand how to lead, by example. They communicate with action.

Do you have a forward lean? Do you:

  • sit in the front row at a seminar or meeting?
  • speak up, ask questions, volunteer?
  • often find you’re the first to get things started?
  • jump in and get involved…put yourself on the playing field?

Successful communication is a natural extension of the forward lean. We see it in high profile leaders, but we also see it in every area of life: Home, office, church, non-profit, school, community organizations. The opportunities for any of us to lean forward abound.

So where does your lean manifest? Are you leaning forward? Once you start leaning forward, you MOVE forward.


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Handling Hecklers – Obama does it well

Bert DeckerPosted by Bert Decker   |   September 10th, 2009   |   3 Comments   |  Tweet This

Much has been written about President Obama’s speaking style, particularly here and elsewhere, so I’m not going to comment on the specifics of last night’s speech. Nor get into the opinion of many as to whether he is using the Bully Pulpit to excess. (He is.) But I do want to laud him for the way he handled the heckling of Rep. Joe Wilson.

There are some lessons to be learned here. I doubt if any of us will ever have the massive stage, audience and pressure that Obama had at a speech almost State Of The Union in it’s size and impact – but how Obama handled the outburst is worth noting.

As you can see in the clip, not only is President Obama taken aback by the shout, “You lie!” from Wilson, so are Nancy Pelosi and Joe Biden. Actually everyone was set back a bit – as with most hecklers it isn’t whether the actual content is anywhere near accurate, it’s the shock of the disruption – particularly to the President on the floor of Congress in such a major speech.

At 1 minute and 23 seconds into the clip Wilson shouts, “You lie!” Then Obama pauses, finger upraised and looks pointedly at him for 4 seconds. Then he wisely does not argue, but takes it in stride with a calm ad lib and low key refutation, “That’s not true.” And then he continues on to recapture his momentum. Well done. And an immediate acceptance of Wilson’s rapid apology later furthered President Obama’s accomplishment at turning a lemon into lemonade.

How You Can Handle Heckler’s

We can learn from this very public example and apply it to our own communicating situations. Here are three things you can do to help you handle hecklers and hostile audience encounters:

1. Don’t argue.

You might win the argument, but you would probably lose the audience. The hostile questioner is ‘part’ of the audience, so you don’t want to put him or her down – publicly. Obama did that well – he stopped, looked and listened – and then went on.

2. Use simple behaviors.

Use your voice, and increased volume or change in tone, and/or a pause, to get the attention back to your message. Use your eye communication to engage the heckler, and then take the attention away from the heckler by looking and talking elsewhere. (This is also a good behavioral technique in a hostile Q&A session – when you ask for the next question, have your eye contact looking away from the past hostile questioner.) Sometimes a simple hand gesture (or finger pointing) might be useful to direct attention away from the negative energy. And then, you just talk and move on.

3. Keep control.

At all costs, you can’t lose control for it is YOUR communication experience and you are responsible for it. Don’t let anyone else hijack it. 95% of the time you can handle most hecklers with the simple behaviors in #2, but if necessary, raise your voice, confront, or do what is necessary to keep control, even if you have to ask for help in removing the extremely disruptive.

Simple common sense techniques, but they can work wonders if you keep your cool, and keep control. Like the President did last night.


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