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Archive for September, 2006

What You Do Speaks So Loud

Posted by Bert Decker   |   September 24th, 2006   |   Leave a Comment   |  Tweet This

John Jantsch has a great blog and business at Duct Tape Marketing. I was delighted when John asked me to do a podcast – here’s what he said:


I interviewed Bert Decker on this weeks’ Duct Tape Marketing podcast show. I first ran across Bert when I initially determined I needed to learn how to get good at public speaking about 10 years ago. (Something I’m still working on.)

Bert wrote a fabulous and fascinating book on the subject called You’ve Got to Be Believed to Be Heard. This book sheds great light on how the human brain perceives the message you are communicating, whether it’s one on one or to a group. One of my favorite quotes from the book is attributed to Emerson – "Who you are speaks so loudly, I cannot hear what you are saying."

Listen and learn about verbally presenting and speaking from someone who’s been there.


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Handling the Q & A Session

Posted by Bert Decker   |   September 17th, 2006   |   8 Comments   |  Tweet This

Don’t Answer to the QuestionerQa_2

Of all the do’s and don’ts in handling the Question and Answer sessions in your group speaking, the most important is that you do NOT answer to the questioner. Start your answer to the person asking the question, but then broaden your answer by moving your eye communication to other members of the audience. 

This is counter-intuitive, but it really makes sense when you think about your purpose. When you have a group, you want to be relevant to the entire group. If you keep your eyes on the person while you answer the question you will be in a closed feedback loop, and will concentrate on the relevance to the questioner as you look at them. What if it’s a narrow focus, technical question, or a gender oriented question. You will tend to stay in the narrow focus and gender – and thus lose half or more of your audience.

Angry_3 And if you have a hostile questioner, it’s even worse. You will be looking at your hostile questioner, probably get defensive with a frown, trying to make yourself right, and you’re in a NEGATIVE closed feedback loop – and a destructive one at that.

Start your answer to the questioner, then look at others in your audience (with your good 5-second eye communication) and you will tend to broaden your answer to include everyone you are looking at. You will also be able to think more agilely, be more relevant, be shorter in your answer, and not be tempted to ask the questioner, "Is that OK? Did I answer your question?" (That common habit tends to continue the closed conversation with the one questioner.)

When you answer to the audience you can also be more adept at "Linking Thinking," which is taking any stimulus (a question for example) and linking it to your positive Point Of View, or benefit, or some example that will further your purpose.

The Q&A session can be very productive, if short and held at the end (but before the close) of your presentations. Here are some more of the Do’s and Don’ts of the Question and Answer session (and remember this is speaking to groups, not the interview Q & A session or one-on-one):

DO’S

1. Encourage questions by leaning or stepping forward.

2. Listen to and look at the questioner.

3. Use the question to further your POV.

4. Answer to the entire audience.

5. Be brief and cooperative.

6. Include a final closing after your Q & A session.

DON’TS

1. Don’t say "Good question".

2. Don’t unnecessarily repeat the question.

3. Don’t argue.

4. Don’t posture.

5. Don’t change from your original presentation style.

If you have any questions…


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The Great Communicator

Posted by Bert Decker   |   September 10th, 2006   |   4 Comments   |  Tweet This

Nido_at_high_point_universitySome said Ronald Reagan was the Great Communicator, some say Bill Clinton. I have another candidate who is not as well known, but someday he might be. And we can learn three key points of communicating excellence from him.

Nido Qubein is remarkable. He is a businessman, entrepreneur, visionary, author, speaker, Chairman of many Boards and companies and now a university President. He could perhaps be a President joining Reagan and Clinton, if he wanted to go into politics, (and was willing to leave High Point, North Carolina.)

Last year I picked Nido as one of the Top Ten Communicators of the year, and he’ll probably have to be on it again this year. Because of his communications – and his results.

Let’s just take one area of results, and how Nido Qubein has transformed High Point University in the short 18 months that he has been President. He has raised $100 million dollars, completed the building and renovation (already) of ten buildings, increased enrollment and applications dramatically, and almost singlehandedly inspired staff and faculty to transform a large institution of over 4,000 people into a vital, exciting and amazing place. In 18 months!

 

High_point_university I spent a day on the campus with him and 20 friends and associates who are members of Speakers Roundtable . These are all successful people in their own right, yet we were all in awe. Not just of his accomplishments but of his relationships with students, faculty and staff. More detail can be seen on Terry Paulson’s website where he describes the changes at High Point University , and Dianna Booher’s blog where she talks about the unique WOW relationships that Nido has with hundreds of people.

There are many things to learn from Nido – I hunch there will be many books written about him down the road. Let me just pick three key lessons of communicating for leaders that stand out to me:

1. Communicate large visions continuously

“You can’t make incremental change and transform a culture. You need big results or they won’t see or appreciate the changes.” 

 

Dr. Qubein started with a large vision – on his first day as President he announced a capital campaign to raise $20 million dollars in one month, and then after raising that in 20 days he doubled the goal. He speaks at least a dozen times a day, to large groups, small groups and individuals about the vision of High Point University:

“At HPU, every student receives an extraordinary education in a fun environment with caring people."

He uses email, banners, newsletters and just about every means available to communicate his vision. Ceaselessly. Great leaders continuously communicate their vision. Repeating good ideas is worth repeating.

2. Encourage others to speak.

Nido Qubein inspires all those around him – particularly the employees (staff and faculty) who are the ones who have to really catch the vision to make it work. And they have. Nido has mobilized his resources, and encourages all of them to speak and communicate in all ways – formally and informally, in person and in email. Every student has Nido’s email, and he responds. (Do you not think that every staff then also gives out THEIR email to the students – what does that do for accessibility and connection!)

And Nido encourages the students to talk to him, the President, continuously. What a way to build confidence in them – if they can talk to the President then they can talk to anyone. In one 90 minute tour of the campus with Nido in a golf cart (more accessibility) I counted at least 50 hellos, high fives and hugs between the President and his students. Remarkable.

3. Be excellent in all you do.

Nido is a great communicator for many reasons. He came to the US from Lebanon with $50 in his pocket and self taught english. He mastered the art, and continued to work at it, wrote books about communicating, and then did it. With excellence.

He is the perfect example of the consummate high level expert and professional (in his case in communications, leadership and business) who can talk about their craft in any format and any time period. Because they live it, they just have to know the time they have and the audience, and can quickly put a few points together that are salient, wise and powerful. I have personally seen Nido do this in dozens of different settings – always prepared because life has prepared him.

And when you see excellence, it inspires one to become excellent. I love watching Tiger Woods play golf, as he is absolutely excellent at his craft, and thrives under pressure, and inspires all of us to be better at whatever we do. In this same way Nido Qubein exudes excellence in all he does, and as a communicator always in front of people, that’s a lot of inspiration.

One final story of his attention to detail – communicating excellence on the HPU campus. I talked to one of Nido’s staff about him, a king how he was to work for. Chris said, "Great." Which of course I expected, but asked why.

Benches "Well," said Chris, "He appreciates the people who work for him, even though he is demanding. For example, I’m in charge of campus communications, which involves a lot around here. This morning I was in early because of an important group that was going to be on campus, and Nido was here before me. He mentioned that some of the benches on the quadrant walk were out of line – that’s his attention to detail. And he complimented me on how great the new student banners looked. I love working for this man."


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Katy Couric Review

Posted by Bert Decker   |   September 5th, 2006   |   11 Comments   |  Tweet This

Katie Couric Leads the New CBS NewsKatie_cbs_2

So the $15 million news lady premieres – what’s the result? Winners and losers!

Actually, Katie was neither. She was fine, nice – and not overly cute. But it was really a non-event except for all the hype. I like Katie – a lot. She interviewed me on the TODAY Show, she is a very nice, approachable person, exactly as she appears. And she’s good on camera. She DOES create a communication experience. But is that enough….

The interesting thing in tonight’s CBS News is that she was not among the winners and losers. She was neutral, did a good job, but nothing spectacular. Whether she wins will be seen in the next few Conan months, or years maybe, but not the next few days and weeks. (Remember Conan O’ Brien – who started out terribly many years ago and is now a big star – and pretty good at that. He took a year to establish.)

First impressions are important, but we already know Katie. She did well in not trying to overdo her ‘personality.’ She doesn’t have to. She read the news, and she was fine. We’ll see as far as Katie goes.

The Winners

Documentary filmmakers – this was an overproduced show. There were literally five set pieces, mini-documentary films or segments. The documentaries, and some of the set pieces were good, generally, but they were not news:

  • Aftghanistan today with Laura Logan
  • Bush speaking today against backdrops of ‘evil’ leaders with Jim Axelrod
  • Tom Friedman, NY Times Columnist in a long interview with Katie
  • Black Gold – Shell’s ‘difficulties’ and riches in today’s oil market
  • Produced Segments of Free Speech, Snapshots and Precious Images

Graphics - there of course is a whole new look to the CBS News with Katie. It looks good, I guess. Certainly is livelier than the Dan Rather backdrop. And their Snapshots segment was well done and interesting. (Not so much Free Speech – who really cares what a lay person thinks unless they have credibility – just more talking head and spin meisters.) The design was very conscious – take a look at the firm who did them National Ministry of Design in Boston. Good job, but is that news.

Non-Network News – the show was interesting, but why would you want to watch. For Katie – I don’t think so – she had more freedom, spontaneity and spunk on the TODAY Show. She is a newsreader now, albeit a pretty good one. This is a five segment show masquerading as news – the internet, and cable for instant major events updates will be the winners for news of the future. This CBS Evening News is entertainment, but it’s not that entertaining.

The Losers

Network News – See above.

News Readers - If Katie can’t stand out, not too many can. It was good to see the clips of Walter Cronkite and Edward R. Murrow in the Snapshots segment – they were trusted NEWSMEN (or Newswomen as the case might be.) They did more than read news – we wanted their opinions and got them. The biggest opinion from Katie was her ending – when she asked viewers to give her ideas for how to ‘sign off,’ and then signed off with "I’m Katie Couric, thank you for watching and hope you tune in tomorrow night." Not exactly compelling.

Mass Media - this is just a further splintering of the influence of mass media on the public. There are too many options – and it’s not just the news media. Theatrical film distributors are trying to create the "film" experience to attract patrons who want to watch in the convenience of home theatres or on DVDs. Videos are now produced by anyone and put on the internet, and more people might see a silly but riveting home movie in a week than have seen a major motion picture in a year. Fragmentation is here, and I’m afraid that CBS Evening News spent a lot of money on a fine person but the audience is gone.

What do you think? More than likely you didn’t see the newscast. (Although you might watch tomorrow night as Katie got in a great plug for an exclusive live (sort of – it will have been taped) interview with President Bush – very clever.) But if you do watch it in the future, doubtful if it will get much better. They put a lot into this first show in money, promotion, hype and production value. I don’t think it will pay off – even though I like Katie.

Let us know your opinions right here!


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Communication Skills at the Supermarket

Posted by Bert Decker   |   September 4th, 2006   |   Leave a Comment   |  Tweet This

We talk about “Creating Your Communication Experience” in all the important ‘touch points’ in your day. For most of us that’s a half dozen to dozen contacts and connections – on the phone, running a meeting, in the hall or elevator, an important email, certainly a speech, and the list goes on. For the CEO of a company or large organization, it could be 25 to 50 key communicating events a day – important touch points that make a difference – that take communication skills.

The “experience” extends as well to our environments. A friend sent me the description of such an extraordinary experience that I wanted to share it with you – hopefully it will remind you to keep the ‘touches’ in your life top of mind, and as extraordinary as these.

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  • “The new Supermarket near our house has an automatic water mister to keep the produce fresh. Just before it goes on, you hear the sound of distant thunder and the smell of fresh Cows_1 rain.
  • When you approach the milk cases, you hear cows mooing and witness the scent of fresh hay.
  • When you approach the egg case, you hear hens cluck and cackle and the air is filled with the pleasing aroma of bacon and eggs frying.
  • The veggie department features the smell of fresh buttered corn.
  • I don’t buy toilet paper there any more.”

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(Well, up until the last line it was extraordinary!

But there’s still a message there. If you want some more insightful and funny emails and images and such, contact my friend Mike Weintraub

at Mike@RetireRich.com . He has some other gems.)


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